Is Connection Still Relevant?

Is connection still relevant today? Does it matter if we have deep discussions with people from time to time? After all, everybody is so busy. Who has time to build connections these days?

Last Thursday night, I had the pleasure of attending a Living Room Series event in Calgary, and it was a meaningful discussion. It was very much worth the time. 

“The Living Room Series is inspired by 18th-century French salons, where a cross-section of society would gather to discuss ideas and share their passion for the arts.” 

Such events have been happening in Calgary since 2017 and have also taken place in Vancouver and across Asia. Last week, the topic was F.O.M.O. – The fear of missing out. We talked about what that means to each of us and discussed the subject in detail.

At one point, this question came up, “Why do I focus so much on what I still need to do in terms of personal or professional growth, but not on my accomplishments?” What came to me was, “That’s because the rearview mirror is so small compared to the front windshield. We can’t help but be overwhelmed by what’s ahead at times, and it can be difficult to remember where we came from.”

I am sure there are songs that use this metaphor. It seemed fitting because the front view is so much broader than the rearview. There are so many places to look, and choices to make. When you look in the rearview mirror, it’s more static. It is history, after all. While I don’t think we should spend most of our time looking at our past, I do believe that we can benefit from taking the time to recognize what we accomplished there. 

How to acknowledge accomplishments

  1. Slow down. When living a busy life, it can be easy to forget time for reflection. Even taking deep breaths throughout the day can help. 
  2. Create a morning or mindfulness practice to express gratitude and to reflect on your life experience. Use a pen and a notebook for this. 
  3. Celebrate your accomplishments small and large with feelings of self-acceptance. What accomplishments make you feel proud?

We were a group of eleven people, and the conversation flowed naturally. Everyone had an opportunity to contribute, share and learn. I am grateful to have attended as such discussions are particularly important today. They help build human connection which is more relevant now than ever.

Visit http://livingroomseries.me to learn about upcoming events in your city so you can also be a part of a meaningful conversation and to help build connection. 

Creating connections in Calgary, Canada, Tony Esteves is a play-based workshop facilitator, performer and coach. He studied at the Second City Improv Training Centre and has been performing with Le Cirque de la Nuit since 2014. He was a part of their 2016 TEDx performance, “The Creative Process.”

He believes that people can move their lives and businesses forward by having more face-to-face conversations and therefore created the Talk2MorePeople Project. During this social experiment, Tony met at least one new stranger a day for an entire year, and his life transformed for the better. Tony created Play2MeetPeople Networking events for people to have fun and meet strangers. The Talk2MorePeople Book will get released in 2020. Visit Talk2MorePeople.com/tools for free tips on how to meet people.