I recently hosted an event called “The Human Connection Celebration” and it was a really special evening. The event was all about bringing people together to connect, network, share food, and listen to live music at it took place at the CanMore Together Community Hub. We had 20 participants and it was a beautiful night.
During the event, I gave a presentation on human connection where I celebrated the conclusion of my Talk2MorePeople Project that I concluded six years ago this week. During that project, I made a point of meeting at least one new stranger every day for a full year. I also announced that I had started a new 30-day challenge to meet a new stranger every day for 30 days in a row. This new challenge began on April 14th, 2023. Several people who participated in the original challenge years ago, were also present at the event.
We also had guest and contributing author, Tracey Delfs, who led a beautiful guided meditation that helped everyone to connect with themselves and each other. Following this, musical guest Tru Guy Stefan played a one-hour concert, which added to the soulful vibe of the night. The beautiful photography is by Beata Albert, who is the first stranger that I met this year. We were all on the ridge in Canmore when I started juggling just after the fireworks. It was my pleasure to hire her to capture my event. Check out her work HERE.
The event was a great success, and we made some amazing new connections throughout the night. It was truly inspiring to see people from different walks of life come together to celebrate the power of human connection.
If you are interested in following my current adventure of meeting strangers on YouTube, I invite you to do so on my new channel HERE. You never know who you might meet or what connections you might make along the way.
Tony Esteves is a virtual and in-person Business Coach for Artists, author, facilitator, and circus performer living in beautiful Canmore, Alberta, Canada. With over a decade of coaching experience, he has helped many individuals and businesses achieve their goals. Tony is a passionate adventurer and has traveled to 40 countries, believing that adventure is an essential aspect of living a full life.
In addition to coaching, Tony is also an experienced facilitator who has led in-person learning experiences in Canada, the USA, South Africa, South America, Europe, and Japan. His mission on this planet is to bring people together and create more human connections.
Tony is the author of “Talk2MorePeople: Change Your Life by Meeting People,” which teaches people to uncover opportunities and adventures by putting down their phones and connecting with real, live people face-to-face. By registering for Tony’s free “Talk2MorePeople Tips” newsletter at https://tinyurl.com/T2MPnews/, you will receive a “Human Connection Starter Kit” with free sections from the book and other great resources to build human connection. Learn how to build more human connections into your life and business today at https://Talk2MorePeople.com.
Are you looking to broaden your social circle and meet new people from all over the world?
If so, look no further than Couchsurfing.com! This fantastic travel community offers travellers a unique way to connect with locals and other travellers alike, providing you with the opportunity to make unforgettable memories and forge lasting human connections. Below is a video interview with my two most recent guests in Canmore, Alberta. In this conversation, we talk about some of the benefits of using Couchsurfing, and Nicole and Vee share what their experience was like.
Here are 5 great reasons why meeting new people through Couchsurfing.com is an amazing way to build human connections.
You’ll Meet Like-minded People
One of the most significant benefits of Couchsurfing.com is that you’ll meet like-minded people who share similar interests and passions. Whether you love hiking, cultural immersion, or simply exploring new places, you’ll find others who share your enthusiasm and are eager to connect with you. With Couchsurfing.com’s user-friendly interface, you can easily find people with whom you share common ground, making it easier to create meaningful connections.
You’ll Gain Local Insights
By staying with locals or meeting up with them, you’ll gain an insider’s perspective on your destination, which can enrich your travel experience. Locals can give you insights into their city or town that you wouldn’t be able to get from guidebooks, websites, or even tour guides. They can also offer practical tips, like the best places to eat, shop, and explore, as well as hidden gems that you might not have discovered on your own.
You’ll Expand Your Social Circle
Meeting new people through Couchsurfing is an excellent way to expand your social circle and make new friends from all over the world. You’ll have the opportunity to connect with people from different backgrounds and cultures, which can broaden your perspective and challenge your assumptions. Moreover, you’ll make connections that can last a lifetime, like our friends Nicole and Vee, who we met through Couchsurfing. It’s as if we have already known them for years because we consider them friends who will always be welcome to visit and stay with us in the future.
You’ll Save Money
Couchsurfing is a fantastic resource for budget-conscious travellers. By staying with locals, you can save money on accommodation, and you’ll have access to insider knowledge on how to navigate your destination on a budget. You can also participate in local activities or events that won’t break the bank.
You’ll Build Human Connections
Ultimately, the best reason to meet new people through Couchsurfing is that it fosters meaningful human connections. Traveling can be a lonely experience, but by connecting with locals and other travellers, you’ll create bonds that can last a lifetime. These connections can lead to new opportunities, like job offers, travel companions, or even lifelong friendships.
So, what are you waiting for? Check out Couchsurfing today and start building your own human connections. As a bonus, you can start using the platform just to meet people for a coffee before you start hosting to test the waters.
Remember to sign up below for our “Human Connection Starter Kit,” a free resource that offers dozens of tips and tricks for building connections with others. Let’s make the world a more connected place, one connection at a time.
Tony Esteves is a virtual and in-person Business Coach for Artists, author, facilitator, and circus performer living in beautiful Canmore, Alberta, Canada. With over a decade of coaching experience, he has helped many individuals and businesses achieve their goals. Tony is a passionate adventurer and has traveled to 40 countries, believing that adventure is an essential aspect of living a full life.
In addition to coaching, Tony is also an experienced facilitator who has led in-person learning experiences in Canada, the USA, South Africa, South America, Europe, and Japan. His mission on this planet is to bring people together and create more human connections.
Tony is the author of “Talk2MorePeople: Change Your Life by Meeting People,” which teaches people to uncover opportunities and adventures by putting down their phones and connecting with real, live people face-to-face. By registering for Tony’s free “Talk2MorePeople Tips” at https://tinyurl.com/T2MPnews/, you will receive a FREE Human Connection Starter Kit including more than 80 different ways to meet new people. Learn how to build more human connections into your life and business today!
Canada is making history by introducing the world’s first Social Connection Guidelines, set to be released in the next few years. These guidelines aim to encourage individuals to develop more positive and meaningful relationships, both virtually and in-person, a crucial step in the current context where many people are experiencing increased disconnection due to the COVID-19 pandemic.
At the core of these guidelines is the understanding that social connections have a significant impact on our physical and mental health. Research has proven that individuals with strong social connections are more likely to live longer, have better overall health, and are better equipped to manage stress and difficult situations.
On the other hand, loneliness and social isolation can lead to negative health outcomes, such as an increased risk of heart disease, depression, anxiety, substance use disorder, and cognitive decline. Unfortunately, many individuals are unaware of the harmful effects of isolation on physical health.
The Canadian Association for Social Connection and Health (CASCH), a non-profit organization dedicated to promoting social connection as a key determinant of health and well-being, has been leading the development of the Social Connection Guidelines. With the support of the Canadian government and in partnership with the GenWell Project led by Founder Pete Bombaci, CASCH has conducted extensive research on the importance of social connection and its impact on health. The forthcoming guidelines will offer practical tips and advice on building and maintaining meaningful social connections, covering topics such as starting a conversation with a stranger, joining a community group, or volunteering. For an excellent interview on CBC’s “The Current with Matt Galloway”, listen to the discussion with Dr. Gillian Sandstrom and Pete Bombaci here.
While waiting for the official guidelines’ release, there are several things individuals can do to enhance their social connections. Attending human connection events, such as networking events, yoga classes, book clubs, or cooking workshops, is an excellent way to meet new people and form meaningful connections. Joining community groups and volunteering are also effective ways to give back to society while connecting with like-minded individuals.
In conclusion, Canada’s Social Connection Guidelines are a significant step towards promoting social connection as a key determinant of health and well-being. Positive social interactions are beneficial not just for our mental health but also our physical health, and by taking advantage of the practical tips and advice in the guidelines, individuals can start building more positive and meaningful relationships. Let’s embrace the power of social connection and start living happier and healthier lives.
Tony Esteves is a virtual and in-person Business Coach for Artists, author, facilitator, and circus performer living in beautiful Canmore, Alberta, Canada. With over a decade of coaching experience, he has helped many individuals and businesses achieve their goals. Tony is a passionate adventurer and has traveled to 40 countries, believing that adventure is an essential aspect of living a full life.
In addition to coaching, Tony is also an experienced facilitator who has led in-person learning experiences in Canada, the USA, South Africa, South America, Europe, and Japan. His mission on this planet is to bring people together and create more human connections.
Tony is the author of “Talk2MorePeople: Change Your Life by Meeting People,” which teaches people to uncover opportunities and adventures by putting down their phones and connecting with real, live people face-to-face. By registering for Tony’s free “Talk2MorePeople Tips” at https://tinyurl.com/T2MPnews/, you will receive a FREE Human Connection Starter Kit including more than 80 different ways to meet new people. Learn how to build more human connections into your life and business today!
Now that’s a great question. How do you envision the future of human connection with the rise of AI? Could it potentially bring us closer together or will it ultimately lead to further disconnection and isolation? Check out this video where I share my thoughts on how I think it is actually going to help build human connection. You are welcome to share your thoughts in the comments below the video.
Tony Esteves is a virtual and in-person Business Coach for Artists, author, facilitator, and circus performer living in beautiful Canmore, Alberta, Canada. With over a decade of coaching experience, he has helped many individuals and businesses achieve their goals. Tony is a passionate adventurer and has traveled to 40 countries, believing that adventure is an essential aspect of living a full life.
In addition to coaching, Tony is also an experienced facilitator who has led in-person learning experiences in Canada, the USA, South Africa, South America, Europe, and Japan. His mission on this planet is to bring people together and create more human connections.
Tony is the author of “Talk2MorePeople: Change Your Life by Meeting People,” which teaches people to uncover opportunities and adventures by putting down their phones and connecting with real, live people face-to-face. By registering for Tony’s free “Talk2MorePeople Tips” at https://tinyurl.com/T2MPnews/, you will receive a FREE Human Connection Starter Kit including more than 80 different ways to meet new people. Learn how to build more human connections into your life and business today!
This Start Stop Challenge just might change your life.
Here is your opportunity to join the Start Stop Challenge for January, 2023. Decide to start something and stop something this month and connect with people who are doing the same.
Research proves that having someone to keep you accountable greatly increases the likelihood that you’ll reach your goal so I’m looking for people to keep me accountable. Will you be one of them?
Sign Me Up!
Click on this LINK or the image below to fill out a short form to declare what you’ll start and stop in January of 2023. Prizes are available for your participation.
What are the Prizes?
I’m offering you a chance to win a coaching prize (worth over $500) by joining me on this self-improvement journey for 4 weeks. On January 31st, 2021, there will be a draw held between the people who have remained engaged with the challenge. That does not mean that you need to complete your challenge perfectly to qualify. Rather, you only need to show that you you are working on it by attending one or more zoom meetings with me in January, or by emailing in your progress.
If you are interested in a cash prize as was given last year, you are welcome to contribute $25 to the pot. There will also be a draw amongst those who contribute to the cash prize on January 31st. Anyone can participate, but only those who contribute to this cash prize will be eligible to win it. The size of the prize depends on the number of people who contribute to it.
What’s the Challenge?
To enter this draw, you only need to fill out a simple form letting me know at least one healthy habit that you are going to start doing (that you will do every day, daily) and at least one thing that you are going to stop doing (and not do for a single day) in January 2023. You don’t need to get your Start Stop Challenge perfect, but will need to remain engaged to qualify for the draws on January 31st. After filling out the form, you will receive an email from Tony with further details.
The deadline to enter is midnight MDT on Monday evening, January 2nd, 2023.
I’ll start my challenge on the first but know that some people will benefit from the extra two days to get started.
What I will START and STOP
I recommend that you commit to only one “start” and one “stop”, but you can do more if you like. Last year, I had a list of things that I wanted to start and stop, and food that I fell short in a few places. I believe that focusing on just one start objective and one stop objective will be most useful for this challenge.
Below is what I’m committing to for January 2023.
START:
Increased Daily Mindfulness Practice.
I will do yoga and / or meditate every day this month for a minimum of 30 minutes
STOP:
No refined sugar.
I will consume no refined sugar this month. I will monitor this in great detail by checking the ingredients on any processed food and will not eat it if there is any form of refined sugar in that product.
How about you? What could you accomplish next month?
So don’t hesitate, take 3 minutes, register and help me and help yourself get the new year off to a great start!
Tony Esteves is a virtual and in-person Business Coach for Artists, author, facilitator, and circus performer living in beautiful Canmore, Alberta, Canada. With over a decade of coaching experience, he has helped many individuals and businesses achieve their goals. Tony is a passionate adventurer and has traveled to 40 countries, believing that adventure is an essential aspect of living a full life.
In addition to coaching, Tony is also an experienced facilitator who has led in-person learning experiences in Canada, the USA, South Africa, South America, Europe, and Japan. His mission on this planet is to bring people together and create more human connections.
Tony is the author of “Talk2MorePeople: Change Your Life by Meeting People,” which teaches people to uncover opportunities and adventures by putting down their phones and connecting with real, live people face-to-face. By registering for Tony’s free “Talk2MorePeople Tips” at https://tinyurl.com/T2MPnews/, you will receive a FREE Human Connection Starter Kit including more than 80 different ways to meet new people. Learn how to build more human connections into your life and business today!
This year has presented myself and my family with unprecedented challenges due to a tragic loss. For me to navigate this, I’ve chosen to be pro-active at finding and using three mental health supports available to me. I’m sharing this for you to consider how you might support yourself or a loved one in a time of need.
#1. I hired a coach who is guiding me towards and through my first medicine journey. I work as a coach myself, and am so grateful to have found a coach who can support me at this time. If you’ve never worked with a coach and would like to try, reply to this message and let’s talk.
#2. I started regular counselling with an excellent counsellor who I found through the Calgary Counseling Centre. Early this year, this organization received funding from the Alberta government to offer, “Effective and affordable counselling for all Albertans.” I highly recommend exploring their services – available on a sliding scale – if you, or someone you know would like mental health support at this time.
#3. Finally, I decided to try micro-dosing magic mushrooms or psilocybin for the first time. What I’m finding from consuming a 1/8 gram of this medicine every other day is a greater sense of groundedness, more certainty around the decisions I make, and an overall generally greater sense of well-being. People can take a smaller or larger dose and still be considered a “micro-dose” and this amount has been almost entirely sub-perceptual for me. If you are curious about the incredible healing powers of these so-called, “magic mushrooms”, look up the documentary called, “Fantastic Fungi” which is currently available on Netflix. For a very scientific explanation of how mushrooms could save the world, watch this TED Talk by Paul Stamets.
The combination of these three types of support have lifted me out of deep uncertainty and moments of hopelessness to a place of positivity and optimism in a relatively short period of time.
I see the way the that the mycelium network supports soil health and nutrient distribution in the earth relates to how we as people need a network to survive as social animals. It is profoundly important to nourish and care for our social connections for our own mental health. Connecting with new people is another way to be supported in this way.
Of course, none of what I have shared above is prescriptive. This is all just my own experience. We should always speak with a mental health professional before making any decision about how to better take care of ourselves.
I encourage you to consider what options might be readily available to you at a time when you need support for your mental health.
Tony Esteves is a virtual and in-person Business Coach for Artists, author, facilitator, and circus performer living in beautiful Canmore, Alberta, Canada. With over a decade of coaching experience, he has helped many individuals and businesses achieve their goals. Tony is a passionate adventurer and has traveled to 40 countries, believing that adventure is an essential aspect of living a full life.
In addition to coaching, Tony is also an experienced facilitator who has led in-person learning experiences in Canada, the USA, South Africa, South America, Europe, and Japan. His mission on this planet is to bring people together and create more human connections.
Tony is the author of “Talk2MorePeople: Change Your Life by Meeting People,” which teaches people to uncover opportunities and adventures by putting down their phones and connecting with real, live people face-to-face. By registering for Tony’s free “Talk2MorePeople Tips” at https://tinyurl.com/T2MPnews/, you will receive a FREE Human Connection Starter Kit including more than 80 different ways to meet new people. Learn how to build more human connections into your life and business today!
“Stranger Encounters” is a segment on how I met someone new recently. Take what you like from my experience to learn how to meet people, in real life.
April 13, 2023
While preparing to start our hike of Ha Ling Peak in Canmore, Alberta, a man approached us and asked if we were about to hike it. We told him that “yes”, we were. He asked if we had done it before, to which we replied, “yes” again.
And then to my surprise, he asked, “Can we hike with you?” Again, we said, “yes”. This was a real pleasure for me, as I am typically the person who goes up and meets new people. It was neat to be on the receiving end. I must admit, that when Chris first approached us, I was a little hesitant. A thought went through my mind of, “What does this person want from me?” Thankfully that concern lasted less than two seconds, so I was prepared to say “yes” immediately when he asked if we could hike together. But this reminded me of how many people get stuck in that negative mindset. And that’s a shame as almost everyone I meet are very pleasant people.
That’s how I met Chris and his cousin, Mark, and friend, Trevor. They were on a day off after a busy week of work in Calgary and are out on a work project from Ontario.
We hiked the first 2/3 of the mountain with them, met them at the top and then saw them after the hike as I offered to drop off their rental equipment in the morning. While at our place, we shared more laughs and then there was a spontaneous glow in the dark juggling show. I tol
d them that this is the prize for being open to meeting strangers.
Mike shared a great story of how he met another Rasta in a grocery store in Jamaica, and then before he knew it, they were having a meal together and he even scored a great place to stay.
It was a joy to meet these three people who were new to hiking on this beautiful, snowy April day.
April 3, 2023
Vee and Nic from the travellers network, Couchsurfing.com stayed in our home for two nights and we had a lovely time together sharing stories, food, time in nature and life. See the video below for a short interview.
March 24, 2023
When I saw the bicycle with the trailer parked outside the Safeway, I suspected that I might bump into another cyclist. Once I came out of the store, I was not disappointed.
That’s when I met the very well known, local legend, Crazy Larry. I said hello by asking which direction he was going and he went right into a whole bunch of stories. We probably talked for about 15 minutes and it was really joyful.
One of the things that I love the most about our visit, was how many people said hello to him by name as we stood outside talking. He also told me that he is very well known locally and I see this as evidence of someone who has a very rich life. Feeling connected to people is one way we can literally extend our lives. Check out the research on the link in my bio if you are curious.
Connect with people. It’s good for you and good for them.
March 23, 2023
While listening to the excellent music of Mr Bird, I overheard Chelsea and Andy talking about how to say something in Russian. As I lived in Russian speaking countries for about two years, I understand a bit of the language, so I used this as my excuse to say hello. I approached them by saying, “I just overheard you speaking about the Russian language?” And by saying that, I was very warmly invited into the conversation. I’m sure it didn’t hurt that they had likely already had a drink or two, and the interaction was fun and pleasant.
Feb 14, 2023
As part of the “Human Connection Challenge” by Dr. Caroline Brookfield, I had to meet a stranger and the theme for today was, “Novelty”. Her suggestion was to read something that we would normally scroll past, and then to use that as a way to connect with someone else.
So I went skating on the pond in Canmore. I noticed myself feeling a bit nervous at the idea of having to speak to a stranger, even though I love meeting people and have had almost entirely positive experiences from intentionally meeting over 3000 strangers (outside of my work) over the years.
I decided to approach two skaters who had stopped skating but were still on the ice, and this is how I approach them. “Excuse me, have you heard of ChatGPT?” In French accents, they both replied, “No”. I explained that it’s AI technology that is very popular on the internet now to which the man replied, “I don’t really spend much time on computers.” And then I said, “That’s awesome!” I encourage people to meet people in the real world.
From here, we easily had a great conversation. I decided to invite them to an upcoming in-person gathering that I’ll host on March 2nd and he gave me his email address as we live in the same part of Canmore.
This was really uplifting for me and I hope to see Gwen again soon. Thanks for the challenge.
Day 2 Complete.
February 13, 2023
I was in my hometown of London, Ontario, Canada, waiting to board my flight. As I listened to a captivating webinar about AI, I overheard the people in front of me discussing the ease of flying out of London compared to Toronto’s Pearson Airport. I joined the conversation since I could relate to their experience and shared my own thoughts about flying out of London. This led to a pleasant conversation with one of the men, as we boarded the plane. He shared his recent flight cancellation experience, and I listened attentively. This experience of starting a conversation with a stranger came naturally and didn’t take up any extra time. It happened because I was being present.
If you have a structured and predictable life, it may be helpful to consider adding something new, such as a new activity or sport, or letting go of something that doesn’t fulfill you. Additionally, consider the opportunities around you to practice Talk2MorePeople Listening. This intentional and respectful overhearing of conversations can lead to chances to join and contribute to them. Remember, such opportunities require intention rather than time. (For more information, see page 17 of the T2MP book.)
It was such a treat to have met Rich on this day. At the time, I was traveling with another stranger, Caleb, whom I met through the ride-sharing app, “Poparide” https://www.poparide.com Rich approached the vehicle and held up a card explaining that he was deaf. I read this, and we gave him $5. This was followed by a really enjoyable interaction. I also greatly enjoyed the conversation that I had with my ride-share guest, Caleb. Connecting with strangers is so important. Below is a link to a recent podcast on what the research currently says about how these small interactions with strangers can actually help you with your mental AND physical health! This is the podcast where the researcher who I cite in the Talk2MorePeople book, Dr. Gillian Sandstrom, speaks with the founder of the GEN Well Project, Pete Bombaci. They discuss the mental and physical health benefits from connecting with people and also touch on the national social connection guidelines that are being developed in Canada. Exciting stuff! The Current on CBC: https://www.cbc.ca/listen/live-radio/…
February 25, 2023 at the Emerald Lake Lodge
My partner and I recently stayed at the Emerald Lake Lodge to celebrate both of our birthdays. While on the shuttle to the cabins, we met Rob and Terry. They were on their way to visit family in Calgary and stopped to spend a couple of nights here. Rob had photography equipment so I asked him about it. He told me that he’s been a professional photographer for much of his life. He kindly gave me his card and invited me to check out his website.
I’m sure glad that I did! Based in Nelson, BC, Rob’s photography is simply stunning. You can see it HERE. (and see one of his photos above).
We also got to visit with them as well all walked to our cabins together down a beautiful, snowy small road. This place is magical in the winter time. You can check out my 360 video playlist from that day HERE.
We’ve been in touch by email since meeting then. I don’t know if I’ll see these kind people again or not at this time, but I remember feeling warmed at the opportunity to check out his work and to stay in touch. This was a reminder to me of what the research says about the importance of connecting with people – it’s good for our moods. It’s good for us.
And, you never know. Maybe we will meet again one day.
It was lovely to have met you Rob and Terry!
The photo below was sent to me by Rob.
February 8, 2023 at Gibbons Park, London, Ontario
Today, met Gary bishop in Gibbons Park. He had a huge lens on one of the two cameras that were wrapped around his neck and I met him by asking, “What are you shooting today?”
I was just curious.
This lead us into a really enjoyable conversation for about 10 minutes about the animals in this park. He let us know about a family of owls. I was there with my mother and she was so happy to have met someone new. Check out our experience in the VIDEO below. Meeting people is good for you. Get out there and Talk2MorePeople.
July 20th, 2022 at Mt. Nelson Athletic Park, Invermere, BC
On this morning in Invermere, British Columbia, I met David, his wife Jennie, and their children in the park pictured above. I enjoyed watching the family play a game of Ultimate Frisbee while having my morning coffee on a park bench. It was fun to witness this family play together and to hear the parents competitive sides come out. I used to play Ultimate Frisbee so that was the excuse that I used to say hello to them.
I approached them by saying, “Hello. I just wanted to say that I enjoyed seeing you play Ultimate Frisbee because I used to play Ultimate.”
Notice how I didn’t sit and try to scheme something clever to say, but rather, I pretty much just explained what I observed as my ice-breaker. I did consider that they might not want to hear from me – a total stranger – but I know from experience and from the research that I likely wouldn’t get rejected.
And this lead into a really enjoyable conversation.
They shared how as parents they are happy to play two-on-two Ultimate with two of their three children.
We also talked about van-camping as my partner and I had slept in our camperized van on a random street the night before. Their family is considering doing so in the future as well so David in particular had lots of questions for me. On this subject, we had what I call an “Information Gift-Exchange”. You can read about this concept in the Talk2MorePeople book.
I gave David a Talk2MorePeople sticker that has my contact information on the back. He told me a story about how he met one of his best friends eight years ago while walking with his young daughter. In that instance he invited the stranger over to his house for a barbeque and they have become lifelong friends.
Often when I meet new people, I invite them to remain in contact with me by giving them a sticker. When I do this, it’s always so enjoyable to hear how often people share their stories with me about how meeting a stranger once changed their lives.
I’m grateful for this enjoyable conversation and to have met them. It brightened up my already sunny morning. You can use your simple observations to connect with new people and you may very well be surprised just how well those conversations can go.
Tony Esteves is a virtual and in-person Business Coach for Artists, author, facilitator, and circus performer living in beautiful Canmore, Alberta, Canada. With over a decade of coaching experience, he has helped many individuals and businesses achieve their goals. Tony is a passionate adventurer and has traveled to 40 countries, believing that adventure is an essential aspect of living a full life.
In addition to coaching, Tony is also an experienced facilitator who has led in-person learning experiences in Canada, the USA, South Africa, South America, Europe, and Japan. His mission on this planet is to bring people together and create more human connections.
Tony is the author of “Talk2MorePeople: Change Your Life by Meeting People,” which teaches people to uncover opportunities and adventures by putting down their phones and connecting with real, live people face-to-face. By registering for Tony’s free “Talk2MorePeople Tips” at https://tinyurl.com/T2MPnews/, you will receive a FREE Human Connection Starter Kit including more than 80 different ways to meet new people. Learn how to build more human connections into your life and business today!
This Start Stop Challenge just might change your life.
While doing an online yoga class for the first time in weeks yesterday, I got an idea. As I’ve benefited greatly from doing 30-day challenges in the past, I thought, “Why not do a healthy 30 day challenge in January?” Of course as January has 31 days, let’s call it a 31 day challenge. “I’ll do a yoga class every day for the month” I thought, but I know that I can do more than that.
Research proves that having someone to keep you accountable greatly increases the likelihood that you’ll reach your goal so I’m looking for people to keep me accountable. Will you be one of them?
Sign Me Up!
Click on the image below to fill out a short form and to enter the draw to win $250 by participating in the Start Stop Challenge.
What’s the Prize?
I’m offering you a chance to win $250 CAD by joining me on this self-improvement journey for 4 weeks. On January 31st, 2021, there will be a draw held between the people who have remained engaged with the challenge. That does not mean that you need to complete your challenge perfectly to qualify. Rather, you only need to show that you you are working on it by attending one or more zoom meetings with me in January, by emailing in your progress or by indicating your actions on Instagram. I will pay out this prize only if I have at least 10 participants for this challenge, so if you know of anyone else who would be interested to join, please forward them this LINK to this page.
What’s the Challenge?
To enter this draw, you only need to fill out a simple form letting me know at least one healthy habit that you are going to start doing (that you will do every day, daily) and at least one thing that you are going to stop doing (and not do for a single day) in January 2022. You don’t need to get your Start Stop Challenge perfect, but will need to remain engaged to qualify for the draw on January 31st. After filling out the form, you will receive an email from Tony with further details.
The deadline to enter is midnight MDT on Sunday evening, January 2nd.
I’ll start my challenge on the first but know that some people will benefit from the extra two days to get started. This short video below explains the concept.
Why is there a prize for participation?
1. I genuinely want other people to play towards their own self-improvement goals with me, and a little incentive can make the difference between thinking, “Oh, yeah, that sounds interesting” to “Heck, I’ll sign up now!”
2. I do good work in the world as a virtual event producer and a Solution-Focused coach. Since I left Facebook at the end of August, 2021, I’ve been on social media much less. This has been great for me and I’m ready to have fun with a new project. I know that this project has the potential to help many people and can also put the spotlight on the good work that I do.
3. I love a good challenge.
What I will START and STOP
You only need to commit to one “start” and one “stop”, but you can do more if you like. Below is what I’m committing to for January 2022.
START:
Yoga every day. I recommend this YouTube yoga instructor named, “Kasandra”. I’ll take her “Morning Yoga Movment 30-day challenge“. These classes are all around 10 minutes long.
Green smoothie every day. I like the recipe created in “Wildfit” called the “Alkagizer”. Blend up 1/2 avocado with 1 piece of celery, about 3 inches of cucumber and your choice of greens. Yummy!
Outdoor movement every day. I’ll go for a walk or get some kind of exercise every day in January. If you fancy a day on the slopes, reach out to me as I’ve got a season pass at Lake Louise and go often.
Daily Journalling. I’ll write a list of things that I’m grateful for every morning and also set an intention every day this month in my writing process.
STOP:
No caffeine. I’ll take a break from my love of coffee and also not drink tea in January 2022.
No alcohol. I’ll do a “Dry January” and won’t take even a sip of a pint or a tasty cocktail this month. January is always a great time to give my body a break from alcohol. Sometimes it lasts for several months and I find that my energy is much better without it.
By participating in this challenge, you will be invited to some optional free events on Zoom to connect with other people taking the challenge, you may be offered a complimentary coaching session and you will almost certainly have fun.
How about you? What could you accomplish next month?
So don’t hesitate, take 3 minutes, register and help me and help yourself get the new year off to a great start!
Tony Esteves is a virtual event producer and facilitator at Neole Inc, a solution focused coach and a circus performer. Tony is also the author of the book, “Talk2MorePeople: Change Your Life by Meeting people.” He is passionate about spending time in the mountains and creating human connection. He also owns a mirror suit. To connect on LinkedIn or to find Tony in other digital spaces, click HERE.
More than 75 years of research indicates that good quality personal relationships are essential for your mental and physical health and can indicate how healthy you will be later in life. These high quality social relationships in mid-life are predictors of how healthy you will be later on. But this fact often gets overlooked in our ongoing pursuit of happiness.
Photo by Anthony DeLorenzo
My personal experience from a journey of intentionally meeting a new person every day for a full year absolutely changed my life. It helped me get out of depression, helped me build self-confidence and introduced me to my partner. Unlike the photo of me above from 2008, meeting new people had me head-over-heels in love with life and the daily pursuit of a meaningful goal.
Today I’ll share a short story – a recent, true story – of how meeting a stranger changed my life and explain why you need to change your life by meeting people too.
When Opportunity Knocks
Having recently left the big city for the small town of Canmore, Alberta we knew no-one here. Not a soul. On the third day in Canmore, there was a knock on the door. It was a man who I’d never met before, David. He was here to see if a remote control that he had forgotten was still in the apartment. It was. David was the tenant who lived in our apartment just before us.
I invited him inside and we talked for about a half an hour. Quickly we learned that we both have an appreciation for nature and for outdoor activities. He told me that last summer he cycled from Canmore to Banff more than 70 times and I mentioned that I really wanted to get a mountain bike. We agreed to go hiking together sometime and to keep in touch. I thought,
“Bonus! My first friend in this new town.”
Sometimes opportunity literally comes knocking at the door.
We exchanged phone numbers and have kept in touch. We have since gone hiking together.
Here’s how David – a total stranger – unknowingly changed my life.
On September 18th, he kindly sent me this photo of Ultimate Sports in Banff. As I had told him that I was in the market for a new bike, he pointed out to me that rental shops in Canmore and Banff often sell off their inventory at the end or the beginning of their seasons to make room for new equipment. As the bikes are used, they can sell for a good price, and they typically sell quickly.
That same day, we zipped up the road to Banff to see if we could score a deal. They didn’t have my size, but two weeks later (after a number of follow up calls), they did, and my partner and I each bought new (to us)/ used mountain bikes for just under $500 each.
This was so impactful for me because I had been feeling overwhelm at the idea of shopping for a bike in this bike-Mecca that is Canmore. So many questions were going through my head:
“Do I go for single suspension or dual suspension right away?
“How much will I actually use this thing as it’s going to start snowing soon?”
“How much should I spend on this new hobby at this time?”
Questions like this have held me back from starting to participate in a sport or activity that I’ve wanted to join in the past. It had been paralysis by analysis instead of just getting started doing the thing.
But David’s recommendation to check out the deals at the rental shop cleared away that confusion in one fell swoop. This was an answer that would suitably get me into the sport and for a good price. We each purchased an Aspect 960 for just under $500. Between the two of us, doing so saved us several hundred dollars on entry level bikes – which is what we need at this time.
Sometimes you just need a little nudge to try something new. And that nudge can come from a stranger.
We have since been cycling often and it’s been exhilarating. I’m starting cautiously as my first experience on a fat-bake up in the Yukon ended with a few bruises. Interestingly, that visit followed a spontaneous bike trip across Canada with a stranger, but that’s a story for another day.
Why is mountain biking so exhilarating?
it’s a new sport that I’ve now finally started to participate in
there are countless trails around my new home to explore at all levels of difficulty
it’s another way for me to exercise my body which is extremely important to me
I found my first bike by having a conversation with a stranger
my touring bike got stolen earlier this year and it’s great to get back in the saddle
I have now felt the rush from winding down a narrow, winding trail in the mountains challenging my skill level
it is providing further opportunities for me to meet new people
So that’s how a conversation with a stranger recently changed my life. There’s a very good chance that I would not have gotten past my sense of overwhelm at purchasing a bike this season had I not met David and told him that I was in the market for a mountain bike. Never mind the excitement that I’ve listed above by starting to ride the trails, but consider the physical and mental benefits for me to have this athletic outlet now? As a coach and virtual event producer and facilitator at Neole Inc., I clock my fair share of hours online and welcome the physical activity outdoors.
It’s Time to Change Your Life by Meeting People
Of course, you may not have friendly strangers literally knocking at your door, but my wish is for you to witness just how much good can come from at least being open to connecting with new people. I believe that it is essential for each of us to be open to these opportunities. They create moments of human connection and ripple effects of positivity.
What might you learn through your next conversation with a stranger?
How might you help a person out with your broad life, or business experience and make someone’s day? This is how friendships and meaningful relationships begin and as mentioned at the beginning of this article, those very relationships can actually extend your life. If you’d like to take a deeper look into the science behind that, do an internet search for the term, “Polyvagal Theory” and see what you learn.
I will be forever grateful to David for sharing his local knowledge so willingly and for helping my partner and I get into this amazing sport and more into the culture of this beautiful mountain town.I’ll see you on the trail!
If you would like to explore how you too can change your life by meeting people, book a complimentary 30-minute callwith me and we will explore this together. As a Solution-Focused coach, I am sure that we will have an interesting and productive conversation.
Happy connecting.
Tony Esteves is a virtual event producer and facilitator at Neole Inc, a solution focused coach and a circus performer. Tony is also the author of the book, “Talk2MorePeople: Change Your Life by Meeting people.” He is passionate about spending time in the mountains and creating human connection.
Learning how to meet new people can seem overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to. You can use your interests to meet new people. In this short video, I explain how you can do this too.
It truly is worthwhile to use your interests to connect with people. Be courageous and dare to strike up a conversation with someone and you will likely be rewarded for doing so. The research proves that you are more likely to be liked than you expect so why not give it a try?
I met these people at Coastal Coffee near Lochalsh, Ontario. (which is close to Amberly and Kincardine, Ontario). I highly recommend their coffee and how they’ve made use of the old church is fantastic. Head in on a Friday or a Saturday and have a chat with Ben, Ben or Bri. They’ve got a really interesting story.
This enjoyable conversation with three strangers in this video was born because it was clear that they were cyclists. Having this in common with these people (the cycling) it was easy to strike up a conversation. You can do this too!
Don’t overthink it
Far too often we overthink our way out of taking small risks in life – like approaching a person we’ve never met before. But as most people don’t want to live with regrets, at some point, you’ve got to take some small risks.
Give the spontaneous side of you a chance to express itself so the next time you think about saying something to someone – which may come very naturally to you as you use your own interests to come up with what to say – just speak up!
Doing this regularly can change your life for the better.
If you would like to learn how to change your life by meeting people, check out The Human Connection Adventure – a course on how to do just that which starts in September, 2021.
Tony Esteves is an international facilitator, coach and circus performer who is passionate about creating human connection. He holds a B.A. in Communication Studies, intentionally meets new people regularly and loves to play and improvise. Tony is based in Canmore, Canada.
He is the author of the book, “Talk2MorePeople: Change Your Life by Meeting People” which is based on how he once met a stranger every day for a year. This book teaches the benefits of meeting people and how you can do it too.
He shares the mental health benefits of connecting with people in his workshops, presentations and one-on-one coaching.
