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hand-shakeUnexpected connections are happening around us at all times. I find this very exciting because to me it means that we are constantly surrounded with opportunities.

What is an unexpected connection? I define it as an interaction with a person or group of people who unexpectedly give you a message, idea or contact that could be, or lead to an opportunity. Far too often we don’t take notice of these connections, or play with them to our benefit. But it is easy to do so if we take the time to be present, slow down a little and see what’s going on around us.

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The book, “Superconnect” by Richard Koch and Greg Lockwood is about how networks operate and how we use them in our lives. They identify, “weak links” as the people on the periphery of our experience as opposed to, “strong links” – the people who know us very closely such partners, family members or immediate colleagues.

Koch and Lockwood explain that there can be great power in actively connecting with these weak links to move your personal or professional life forward. Stating that, when you engage with a weak link you gain access to their entire world of resources and contacts. Their world might be totally different than yours and could therefore be bountiful with opportunity.

Have you ever landed a job through a friend or an acquaintance that you did not know very well? It turns out that most of us have.

Who are the weak links in your life? With today’s technology, the chances are good that you have hundreds of them. Old colleagues or classmates; that person who you spoke with while in line, or someone who you surprisingly felt comfortable speaking with at the mandatory office ‘social night’.

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I recently tested this while on a flight back from a conference last month in Florida with great results. I put down my book and started a conversation with the person who was sitting next to me. I had the intention of finding how this stranger and I could possibly help move each others lives forward. She is now a client of mine and is excited to help me build my career. Fantastic!

Now that is the power of weak links!

I’m not advocating stuffing your business card into every person’s hand that you meet. But I do recommend being more open to conversations with those people in your life who you wouldn’t normally take the time to speak with. Share your ideas and goals and ask questions. Listen. If you hear the statement, “Hey I know a person who…” when talking about what you do (or want to do), dig deeper. You might be amazed at what you learn.

Invite these unexpected connections into your life by being courageous enough to make a human connection and see what happens. Such events have already shaped your life in many more ways than you know.  Now that you are aware of them, why not see what opportunities you can help create?

Happy connecting.

Who might you meet?

Who might you meet?

Here’s a link to my “Improvise Your Unexpected Connections” workshop video.

What can one expect from a creativity conference in Sarasota, Florida? Like any creative endeavor, each individual will take away something a little different depending on where they are in life and where they are in their own head. For me, I put in effort to interact, I left the planet, and I took my own medicine.

This conference took place at the beautiful University of South Florida – Sarasota Manatee – campus. I love not only sharing my experiences of creativity conferences, but at them; mostly because I go to the events with high expectations and I always return with even more than I had hoped for.

Here’s how it works.

If you set the bar high for what you are going to experience at an event or conference and really believe that it will be worth your while, it will be. This is because your positive attitude contributes good energy to the physical environment that everyone can and will notice. You help create an over-all better experience for everyone. At the risk of sounding like I’m tooting my own horn, people have come up to me and said, “Your energy is fantastic”, and “Thank you for being here”. It is so satisfying to contribute to someone’s experience and we are all better equipped to do so than we think.

If you plan to be a spectator then you are depending on others to impress and entertain, but if you come with higher self-expectations and a willingness to be engaging and interactive, I can assure you will come home with much more than just another stack of losable business cards.

Isn’t it better to dream up amazing possibilities than to expect routine? I believe that we write our own script in this life, so why not make it interesting?
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Friday:

The opening ceremony of the “Florida Creativity Weekend X” was fun and interactive.  The organizers had me delivering “brain appetizers” to mingling guests while juggling. The message that I shared at the tables was that it’s sometimes ok to drop the ball in life and in business. After all, if you can’t become comfortable with making mistakes, it can be difficult to really move forward.

In the process, I was blessed to reconnect with some of the most creative people in the world who I had met last year at different conferences, including Joe Miguez, Karen Rudolf and Anthony Hyatt to name a few. I also had the pleasure of several stimulating conversations with the creative genius Win Wenger, author of The Einstein Factor—a brilliant book with practical exercises about utilizing your unconscious mind. A quick internet excerpt:

The-Einstein-Factor“New research suggests that the superior achievements of famous thinkers may have been more the result of mental conditioning than genetic superiority. Now you can learn to condition your mind in the same way and improve your performance in virtually all aspects of mental ability, including memory, quickness, IQ, and learning capacity.” I’m so inspired by this material and hope to attend Win’s annual conference later this year.

During the opening ceremony, Rebekah Marler, the founder of Spirit Driven Leaders delivered a touching and powerful keynote and had us all dancing by the end of it! I have had the pleasure of further conversations with Rebekah since the conference and look forward to doing some collaborative work in the US with her this year. This in itself is a great opportunity for me, and the conference had just begun.

Saturday:

At these conferences you have a chance to choose from several concurrent sessions or 1/2 day sessions. On the Saturday morning I opted to attend Art Emrich’s session. The title of his workshop, “Ignite Your Imagination with Theta Brain Waves” was intriguing to me, and this experience was fantastic. I knew that it was a little risky to attend this session as I was scheduled to deliver my workshop immediately after, but I’m a bit of a risk-taker, and I never miss opportunities to get to know my brain better.

Art gave valuable information about how the mind works and then facilitated a guided hypnosis session. I felt that I was in a trance state even before we officially started the self-hypnosis portion. Believe it or not, this was not the first time that I’ve been hypnotized, but I must tell you it was POWERFUL! I felt that during the segment called the ‘visualization’, his voice became quieter and quieter, and then I mentally left the planet. In my mind’s eye I was actually somewhere way out in the cosmos. It was so peaceful and truly the most relaxed I had felt in weeks. I don’t remember the details of the entire journey but what was so powerful for me was the feeling of connectivity to the universe that I had never before experienced. I felt connected to other planets, outer space and concepts much greater than myself. What a trip! I will explore this further…

Where I went when I left the planet

Where I went when I left the planet.

Once he talked us out of this process (which I believe took just 15 minutes), all 20 of us regained full consciousness. I felt a little dizzy but allowed myself to ‘awake’ more slowly than the other participants because I felt so incredible. The session ended after a discussion about the experience with the group, and everyone thanked him for such a unique facilitation.

Initially, as the room emptied, I could not get out of my seat. I felt comfortably heavy in my chair. But I had to get up because in just 15 minutes I was to deliver my focus workshop. How could I do that while in a semi-trance state??

I did manage to get up and to my room to deliver my session. I had a decent turn out and was initially worried that my audience members might notice that I was a little ‘spaced out’ (literally), but everyone was ready to learn and to play. To this date, I don’t know if I was still in a trance state or just highly relaxed, but it didn’t matter.

We did a 90 minute version of my “Juggle Your Focus” workshop and had conversations about embracing mistakes, focus, priorities and everyone made rapid progress in learning how to actually juggle.

And wouldn’t you know that it turned out to be one of the best sessions that I’ve ever delivered! By that I mean that I felt totally confident as a facilitator knowing that I was giving my participants some solid value and excellent take-aways from the workshop. Everybody received a juggling ball and wrote down what they planned to FOCUS on in the coming days as a result of the learning. For the first time, I did this for myself as well. I told the group that I would focus on slowing down once I got back to Canada. And now that juggling ball is a physical reminder of what I committed to during the session.

Since my return to Canada, my own workshop has helped me make decisions that have benefited me both professionally and personally. And while doing things a little more slowly, I’m finding that I’m cleaning the clutter in my life and getting more meaningful things accomplished. Sometimes we all just need a dose of our own medicine. Have you ever given someone fantastic advise that you couldn’t take yourself? What was that advice? Could you still benefit from it?

Sunday:

This reminds me of a fantastic activity that Mary Harvey took us through in her “Effective Icebreakers” workshop.  She shared super-useful and meaningful activities that we as teachers / facilitators can use in our own organizations. Her energy was fantastic and I learned so much in a short time. The remainder of the conference was packed with other stimulating and practical sessions that I am grateful to have been a part of on this very special weekend.

I suggest that the next time you have an opportunity to attend a conference or event, that you step up your level of participation. Consider taking some of your own advice. If this takes you out of your comfort zone, that’s a good thing because it will mean that you are growing. If this takes you off the planet, even better! Explore that! You will be rewarded with meeting new people who might be able to help move your life or career forward.

Or at the very least, you’ll help improve a new friend’s experience.

Live BIG.

Have you ever found a mistake turned out to be a blessing in disguise? There can be magic in mystery and sometimes there are forces working in your favour that you may not understand and or even resist.

This past week I went on a magical Journey. I attended and presented at the second Journey Creativity Retreat that was held at the mystical Joshua Tree Retreat Centre in California. It was stunning, stimulating and very good for me on so many levels. But I came very close to missing this phenomenal experience.

The Journey Symbol

Last Sunday after about a week of contemplation, my left brain concluded that I had to cancel the trip because I was feeling overwhelmed. It would be a financial challenge to attend as it was an unpaid presentation, Christmas was rapidly approaching, I had a taekwando belt test, my best friend’s birthday was coming up, I needed to finalize my Unexpected Connections Improv Workshop for that conference and I had an upcoming presentation at MoMondays in Toronto.

So on that Sunday it became clear that I had taken on more than I could handle and something had to give. After all, I’d already had the biggest year of my life as a result of my time in South Africa. Despite toiling over the agony of disappointing the organizers, it was the Journey creativity conference that I decided to cut out of my busy December schedule. I no longer felt that it would be the type of conference where I could generate business, and that was initially a major motive for applying to present.

For the first time in my life I purchased flight cancellation insurance. I have an allergy to insurance companies but for some reason had a feeling that the extra $25 would be worth it. So when I finally decided to cancel the trip, it seemed to make sense and I did not expect any problem. I was wrong.

“THIS FLIGHT IS NON-TRANSFERABLE AND NON-REFUNDABLE”

And the ‘cancellation insurance’ only covers things like natural disasters or if the airline has to cancel the flight. A death in the family would also qualify me for the much needed refund.  It was my mistake for not checking the fine print – a common challenge for highly creative individuals. Apparently this is standard for cancellation insurance but it was new to me and boy was I disappointed!

Don’t dance with this guy

On that Sunday, once I saw the above notice, I fell apart. How could I have been so unprepared for something like this? This upset me because it triggered something that made me feel that I have little control over my circumstances. At that time, I really felt that it would be a mistake for me to go but had past the point of no return.

Once I conceded that I had to follow through with it, I decided to make the best of it. As I turned my attention to my upcoming speech on December 17th, I did not have time to look forward to the Journey.

I put all of my energy into this talk and was rewarded with a presentation that I was pleased with, and that had several audience members speaking to me after about how it had positively affected them. With the caring audience of over a hundred people, it was a highlight of the year for me. This is why I am alive.

On December 18th I made the time to celebrate Heather’s birthday with some friends and we had some fun. Just a few hours later, I was at the conference in Joshua Tree, California.

The conference organizers, Bill Olsen and Whitney Ferre opened the Journey Retreat with some introductions and announcements.

I consider myself a very open person, but for the first hour or so I had my guard up. I didn’t know what I had gotten myself into. I could not get over how many stunning women there were in the group, and how much everybody was smiling and quite relaxed. It seemed to me as if all of these people had already come from some kind of retreat. What was my problem? This was a much needed pleasant surprise. Less than an hour of being around these relaxed, beautiful people, that guard came down and I was getting engaged in this experience.

The first thing that gave the conference huge value for me was in delivering  my Unexpected Connections workshop to an engaged audience.  Michael and Michelle – professional videographers – recorded my session. They are very skilled at getting testimonials from people who have enjoyed the presentations and I’ll benefit from the PR material that they’ll produce for me. Bonus!

In my first 3 sessions of this Journey, my energy had shifted from apprehensive, to accepting, to enthusiastic and I started to come alive. It was so incredible to have met this tribe of people and to feel instantly that I could speak to just about any of them about anything. The workshops on creativity and spirituality that occurred there, encouraged just that. It was such a safe setting for learning and experiencing.

The Journey world class presenters contributed to these wonderful new experiences:

♥ Awaking at 6.45am to do creative writing with Tim Hurson.
♥ Profound guided meditations and sensory stimulation with Tamera Christensen and Karrie Stafford.
♥ A mental shift with Joe Miguez.
♥ Practical, unconscious exploration through drawing with Jon Pearson
♥ A sensory experience called the “love bath” with Keith Kay and Tiffany Josephs, which was like a mental / physical / emotional therapy session with an excess of loving energy.
♥ Connections with new colleagues at similar stages of their businesses to share resources.
♥ Relaxation in the hot tub every night!
♥ Solid leads for some presenting work in the new year.
♥ An insightful walk through a labyrinth on a vortex with Bob White.
♥ Seeing auras and actually feeling energy for the first time with Nancy Smeltzer – profound!
♥ The beautiful soup that was our collective heightened state of consciousness on December 21, 2012.
♥ Amazing, deep conversations nightly with delicious wine.

There were so many new and incredible experiences packed into these few short days that it was glorious. The benefit to me both personally and professionally for having attended is immeasurable. How did I get here and how did all of this happen? Oh yes, I booked this trip by mistake!!!

I used to think that this spirituality stuff was not that important and that I couldn’t really matter for my business. But this past few days has taught me that I have an obligation to myself and those who I will help in this world to explore and use the unique gifts and abilities of my heart and soul.

I’ve always felt that there was something special inside of me that I could not explain in words, and this Journey confirmed it. Now that I’ve taken the first step to this type of personal discovery the portal is open, and I am starting to walk through it. I am extremely pleased and grateful for this experience. Now how can it get any better than this?

Franca and Karrie enjoy the flight delays

As we all know, the world didn’t end, so now it’s time to move forward. I strongly recommend the Journey Creativity Retreat to anyone looking to do some deep self-exploration or to improve their creativity.  The next time you come down hard on yourself for making a mistake, take a step back and breathe. Calm down and know that it might just be a very magical blessing in disguise.

I am determined to work in Alberta this February, and I will do so. That is why I was working at my new office this past Sunday. I was searching for conferences and events where I might make a good contribution. It’s late in the year to do this for February and the task is time consuming, but it still has to be done.

But the creative animal inside of me knows that this is not the only way to get business.

I needed a break, and cycled down to the Rogers Centre around 4 pm. Thousands of people had gathered from all over Canada to watch and celebrate the 100th Grey Cup. I don’t remember the last time I saw so many painted faces. There was a fellow playing the bagpipes, and abundant festive sounds. The fresh, crisp November air went well with the loud energy of the hordes of people. This year the game was to be the Toronto Argonauts vs. the Calgary Stampeders.

As I’ve often done on the day of major concerts in Toronto, I checked with the box office to see if any tickets remained. And they did! I could get in for $158!? I was not terribly surprised, but was intrigued.

Not a huge football fan, I was interested in watching the game, but had no big plans to do so. I sat down in the “Spot Coffee” cafe right across from the Rogers Centre with the intention of getting deeper into my wonderful book, “Reclaiming Higher Ground”, by Lance Secretan. But almost immediately, a thought came to me,

“How could I get paid to go see this historical event?”

I scribbled out two mind maps. The first one was based on ideas with this written in the centre, “Attend game to earn business in Toronto or Alberta”. To the right are the actual mind maps that I scribbled out while wired on glorious coffee. The second one provided the action and was titled, “What would I do?”. Moments after my pen initially hit the paper, I had a strong feeling that I would probably be doing this stunt. While writing down my ideas – despite the ridiculous feeling to start – I was provided with a positive feedback loop that I believe helped convince me to go for it.

The first step in the “What would I do?” mind map was to, “Ask people in this cafe their thoughts”. I did so, and immediately met my first possible connection. They suggested that I go for it as the risk was only about $200 vs. the unlimited potential gain. Agreed! I had my new speaker One Sheet with me, and one of the professionals there was interested. We are in contact and he may help me find some presenting work. Nice! So this confirmed it for me. Moments later, they saw me enthusiastically waving my plastic ticket in the window of the cafe. I was going into the stadium!

I raced home to prepare for the night’s events bursting with energy and excitement about the task ahead. I quickly changed into my orange suit, and covered up with jeans and a sweater. Equipped with glow-juggling balls, some cash and a stack of business cards, I was ready for action. I raced back to the Rogers Centre and got into gate 11 to find that I was sitting in section 136, and my “obstructed view” seat was GREAT! The only thing that I couldn’t see was the jumbo-tron. No problem.

I settled into my seat as the game began and thought, “Am I really going to clown around with this audience to earn some business?” The first quarter finished and Toronto was leading 7-3. This was good news, but I had not started my work yet.

One very over-priced beer later, I decided I’d better get to it.

My biggest fan

I made my way to the mens room to find a huge line-up and all of the stalls full. With an audience of about 40 football fans, I eventually got the confidence to strip off my sweater and jeans like a superhero to reveal the ridiculous one-piece – bright orange leotard. This thing completely covers my body and I got a few funny looks but unsurprisingly everyone left me alone. I was laughing.

Who does this?

Once I pulled the mask over my face I was in character and it was time to start the show. I started playing with the audience. Heavily photographed and juggling often, I walked down the aisles in unauthorized sections and nobody stopped me. I did some miming and played with kids and adults alike. The suit really does look ridiculous and as it was orange, many people assumed that I was a BC Lions fan. I rolled with it.

Before half time I had earned the business that I’d challenged myself to do and felt amazing! One fellow hired me to perform at some upcoming events.

Investment: recovered
Future opportunities: developing…

Nice job Tony!

For part of the second half I was right down at the 50 yard line. I felt like I was in the centre of the place. When I turned around and looked up, I could see thousands of people. I know that they were not there to see me, but I drank in the eyes who were watching me when I did some performing that night. Audiences this size bring me completely to life. I could get used to this…

My intention was not to busk for money while there, however some people insisted on throwing cash at me. I used to say no to money. Not any more. One fan even slipped $20 into my bag with which I treated myself to another over-priced beer.

This was a delightful event to be a part of for a number of reasons.

  • I got to see Toronto win the 100th Grey Cup in Toronto by a score of 35 – 22.
  • I got to achieve my goal of generating business in the most playful way possible.
  • I had piles of fun and met some great people from all over this amazing country.

The next time you have an impulse to do something a little “out-there” but hesitate, consider creating a mind map or a pros / cons list quickly. Before you know it, you might just find a positive feedback loop encouraging you to live on the edge and to go for what you already know you want to do. Who knows what unexpected connections it might create?

Use your creativity to search for work no matter what field you are in. It does not have to be a chore. You might even find yourself achieving practical goals in front of 50,000 screaming fans having the time of your life!

That’s what I call a good night of work.

Over the next several months I will be writing about unexpected connections. This is because increasingly, I am seeing how profound of an impact they’ve had in my life this year. Now I’m sharing this message with audiences so that they too can benefit.

With deeper reflection, I have seen that most of my life has been a series of unexpected connections. I’ve had a very non-traditional career path, with many ups and downs but the one thing that has been consistent, has been these little unexpected connections.
At times they may have come from a line in a book, or an inspirational quote. Most often they have been something that was said to me by a friend or a stranger. Most of the time I did not see the connection until days or weeks after the message was delivered.
Last week’s unexpected connection comes all the way from New Zealand.

Less than two weeks ago, I got notice that Wayne Morris’s planned 1st annual Creativity Challenge, got the official go ahead for April of 2013. Wayne is the director of Future Edge Ltd, a New Zealand-based consultancy that specializes in applying ‘whole brain’ approaches to leading, learning and creating. I first met Wayne at Toronto’s Mindcamp creativity conference in August 2012 and more recently at ACRE in South Africa. He and his colleagues had been planning this conference for several months, but this was the first official notice that I had received about it.

When I read the news that it was happening I was pleased. I knew how earnestly he wanted to host this major creativity conference. But despite some recent successes, I had some self-doubt welcome me back to Canada and while contacting Wayne, did not think that there was a chance that I could be a part of the upcoming conference. I thought to myself, “How could I have two amazing international conferences happen for me just 6 months apart?”. It seemed too big.

Despite my apprehensive email, Wayne’s response was simple, and provided the unexpected connection:

from Wayne Morris:       “See you in April then!”

“See you in April then??” What? This simple sentence completely changed my perspective. He obviously knew something that I didn’t.
That same night I trouble sleeping due to the excitement that I might somehow be able to make it happen for myself. The wheels were turning.

The idea had traveled in my mind from a distant unlikely scenario to a definite possibility in just a day. Fueled with enthusiasm and delicious food while visiting my loving parents, I put together a proposal and sent it off to Wayne…
… and the very same day, it was approved!
So I’ll be presenting at the 1st Annual Creativity Challenge in New Plymouth, New Zealand late April 2013. And I know that I have a lot to contribute and that it will be another wonderful time for both personal and professional development.

The next time you feel self-doubt creeping in, connect with people who you are close to and who support you. They very often will have a better perspective of your accomplishments and can remind you that you probably have more to offer the world than you think.

I’m loving this journey of unexpected connections. I just can’t wait to see what else comes up between now and then…

As the bus speeds north out of London on the M1 towards Sheffield, I don’t mind that it’s rainy. It did not bother me this entire week in the UK either.

After such beautiful weather this October in South Africa, I feel that I’ve already had more than my share of great weather this year.
My time in the UK has been about seeing some important people in my life. About making the extra effort to have a meal, or have a pint with friends who I had not seen in years.
So as we walked from Marble Arch to Soho and back, or when we bumbled around the buzzing bars and restaurants of Covent Garden, we were in fact having a celebration. It was a celebration of friendship.
I am grateful to have had this time to visit such good people after the wonderful opportunities in South Africa. As my career grows this and next year I will not allow the business of it get in the way of spending time with good people.  Because these connections inspire me and make life such a beautiful journey, I will endeavour to always put my relationships first.
Take the time to maintain your friendships even when you feel you’ve put in more than your share of the effort. Sometimes this will be frustrating. But when you’ve given to real friends who care, that warmth and kindness will always come back to you.  Enjoy the celebration of friendship.
Thank you British JETs and friends for such kind hospitality, again. See you soon!

After climbing the Lion’s Head in Cape Town with Mark Dodsworth – the founder of the Red Zebra Foundation – he invited me to work with a youth group the next day. The plan was to hike up Table Mountain in Cape Town with 16 youth and to do my juggling program for them at the top. I was excited.

It was a busy morning purchasing 30 tennis balls from a store that I’d never been to, but I was able to do that and grab a bite to eat in central Cape Town just in time to catch my ride to the trailhead. There I met Jo-Annstrausse – a famous South African television presenter and model. She had volunteered to come and work with the group as well. I was immediately impressed with how friendly and down to earth she was.

The students were brought in by the company ETC to thank them for their strong efforts in school. This program was set up to encourage them to stay on the right path, to keep off of drugs and to go after their dreams despite their challenges. Only one of the 14 – 16 year old children had ever been to Cape Town before.

The hike was beautiful although cloudy for the 2nd half. Hiking in the cloud was still enjoyable as it made me take a closer look at the things that I often miss while hiking – the local plants. I was reminded of just how much I love being on mountains. I always get so much energy from being up there.

After 3 hours of medium-paced hiking, we were at the top. It felt like we had done some work, but nobody was exhausted. We arrived at this wonderful hut for the evening activities. Although it was not raining, there was so much condensation on the trees at the top, it seemed like it was. So it was a glorious treat to get in from the wind to find a roaring fire was already burning. One of our guides, Paul had arranged this.

The cabin was over 100 years old with 2 foot deep stone walls. Inside was simple and charming. There was no electricity, just candle light and bunk beds for the students to sleep in.

Once we were settled and dry, there was some magic and some games before Jo gave a beautiful talk. She spoke about how we are all who we are because of those around us. She gave some detail about her challenging childhood and how she went from rags to riches. And she also told them about the importance of education and to help those in their community.

I was truly inspired by her casual, funny speech and wondered how I was going to follow it!

After a brief break, it was my turn. We moved a couple of the tables aside to accommodate for the juggling. I knew that the presentation on focus that I usually do might not be appropriate so I made some modifications. The points that came out of me built on Jo’s presentation. As I taught them to juggle, I had them discuss the most meaningful thing that they took from her talk, among other things.

We had FUN and it went very well. It’s always satisfying to teach a group to juggle because when people achieve a certain step, they often shout out or cheer at their new success! Sometimes you can hear bursts of this from various parts of the room as it happens to different people. The excitement builds as they are learning.

They were very playful and fantastic to work with. I found it more meaningful to me than some of the other work I’ve done because of the looks on their faces. They were lost in this new play with tennis balls bouncing around everywhere. There was no judgement, and it seemed that any problems that they had in the world were definitely not there with us at that time. I know that I’d created a few new jugglers while sharing my message. At that young age, students are so impressionable, and I believe that it’s the best time to make an impression. I must do more of this with my work!

This day inspired me to work with youth once I get back to Canada. And I will. I know that the gifts I have do not need to be limited to building my business for me. I must share them now with people who need them most.

Following my session, Mark Dodsworth and his colleagues from Red Zebra arrived and facilitated an amazing drumming session. It was also powerful.  And finally, we had the braai, and to close the night there was a goo-in-the-dark juggling show to Mark’s “lakar beats” on the jambe.

It was an intense program with this group of kids and some inspiring adults. I was impressed with how well they all did as many of them had been up since 5am that day!

Jo speaking to the children

Juggling on top of this mountain with a group of disadvantaged youth turned out to be the highlight of my first 3 week tour in South Africa.

I am so grateful for what this experience has taught me and I am excited to share what I have learned with my friends, colleagues and clients once I am back home.

For the ACRE Education conference I was asked to deliver the surprise closing keynote address! They have

Tony delivers the closing keynote at the 18th annual ACRE conference in South Africa

Tony delivers the closing keynote at the 18th annual ACRE conference in South Africa

used a surprise keynote speaker at each conference for several years. This tradition started when one keynote speaker did not show up, and the conference organisers were forced to throw some presenters up there with very little notice. It was a hit, and this year it was my turn! This was a great honour for me and I created a speech based on some of my experiences while there. It took place on Tuesday, October 9th during the closing ceremony of the Education conference at the Klein Kariba Resort.

I spoke about how people should try to take one thing and not everything; assume that everyone is brilliant; and about the benefits of reflecting on new knowledge.

Often the quantity of new information – especially at the world’s largest creativity conference – we are exposed to, can be overwhelming. How many times have you been to a conference or event that you were initially excited about only to find that your notes and new resources were still sitting in a pile next to the computer several weeks later, untouched?

I facilitated an activity that engaged the audience to identify their most valuable experience or new knowledge gained at the conference. They were then challenged to hold each other accountable to take action on this thing through an email exchange.

Secondly, I spoke about how we should consider that everyone is brilliant! In this section, I described in detail how I arrived in South Africa by listening to the message of a new friend. I was speaking about my new South African colleague, Francois Coetzee, who pushed me to reach higher than I thought I could and to be more resourceful. His challenge allowed me to come to South Africa, to work with the South African 7s rugby team, to present at these conferences, make new friends and professional connections and also to deliver this keynote.

Finally, I spoke about reflecting. Because you can learn anything that you want to in this world, but if you don’t make the time to reflect on it, you risk losing it.

Throughout the speech I juggled to illustrate the points physically as well as verbally. It was well received by the audience and I was pleased with how it went. The feedback from my friends and colleagues after the talk was very re-assuring and positive.

I felt a little nervous before going on stage. After all, I was about to present in front of some of the best presenters in the world, and it was my first international keynote. But once I was given the stage I felt right at home. During the introduction I joked around with my audience a little by occasionally putting on one of my silly accents. This kept the mood light and most importantly, kept me relaxed enough to do my thing. Once I got into my presentation I felt right at home and there was no turning back. I was in complete control and I loved it!

My advice to anone who gets to this type of stage (which for me was a new challenge), is to visualize the experience as often as you can before getting up there. I made sure to spend as much time in that large hall on the stage before the keynote. Fortunately for me, I did one of my juggling workshops on that stage earlier in the conference, so I did have a feel for it in advance.

Activity during the keynote presentation

I also sketched out an image in as much detail as I could of me on that stage with the audience before me, looking at me. I lived it in my mind often before doing it, so that by the time I got up there, it was like deja vu. (that’s a Craig Valentine line, and it’s really how I felt)

More fun to come…

On Wednesday October 3rd, 2012 I had the privilege of working with the South African Sevens national rugby team. I was put into contact with the head coach, Paul Treu through Kobus Neethling and delivered my “Joy of Good Focus” workshop. It was a beautiful, warm evening when we met at a hotel board room in Pretoria for the session.

My first impression of these guys was that they were positive, energetic and big. Some of them had arms larger than my legs and there were plenty of firm handshakes.

As I taught them how to juggle, we had some dialog about mistakes, and how to learn from them. They played together to identify their goals and improve their focus and there were some interesting discoveries.

Once we got to the stage of working with 3 balls, I noticed that this group was unusually proficient. I thought that this was just due to their athleticism. But when I asked who knew how to juggle before my session, nearly 1/2 of them raised their hands! I was impressed that despite having the ability to juggle, they went at my pace and allowed me to deliver my message. What a classy group of guys!

By the end everyone was indeed juggling. I wish them the best as they are in Australia now to compete.

It was a physical, fun evening and I’m grateful for having had the opportunity to work with such a world class team.

See for yourself by checking out this 2 minute video of Tony with the Springboks that summarizes the focus workshop.