Recently while at a Provincial Park, I met three Brazilians. By listening as I walked past them, I noticed that they were speaking what I thought was Brazilian Portuguese. I wasn’t sure, so I asked. 

How to do it

When you overhear people speaking a language that you have some knowledge of, you have a grand opportunity to join their discussion. Even if you don’t have a full understanding of the language, it is still a great opportunity to say hello. I don’t speak fluent Portuguese, but having lived in Brazil almost 20 years ago, I can still get by with it. 

In this case, I said,

“Excuse me. Are you speaking Brazilian Portuguese?”

And with smiles, they replied, “Yes.” From there, it was easy for the four of us to have a conversation. 

Making a connection

When you know something about another language or culture, use that knowledge along with your curiosity and listening skills to join conversations. Common life-experience such as speaking a certain language makes for a natural ice-breaker.

I use my imperfect language abilities to meet people as often as I can. It has the added bonus of creating an opportunity to practice language skills too. Take a look at the short video below about my recent experience of using a language to meet people.

Give it a go, and see what happens. 

Muito obrigado.

Passionate about human connection, Tony Esteves is a play-based workshop facilitator, keynote speaker, circus performer and coach. He studied at the Second City Improv Training Centre, has a Bachelor’s degree in Communication Studies and has been performing with Le Cirque de la Nuit since 2014. He was a part of their TEDx performance, “The Creative Process.” In the circus, Tony juggles, dazzles and co-creates memorable experiences with audiences. 

As a presenter and coach, he teaches networking skills and how to meet people through Talk2MorePeople. In 2016/17, Tony met over 550 people by connecting with at least one new stranger a day for an entire year and transformed his life for the better. The Talk2MorePeople book will be published in late 2020.

Tony has travelled to 40 countries, speaks four languages and spends as much time as possible snowboarding and hiking the Canadian Rockies. 

Recently, while hiking Heart Mountain, I met Matthew.

It was my pleasure to share with him the name of a camping app, “WikiCamps.” This app not only tells you where all rest areas and campgrounds are, but it also tells you where there are free places to camp. You can use it in five countries.

He will likely make use of this information which could positively affect his summer plans. This is an example of the “Information Exchange” that is always possible when two or more people meet and have a conversation. That’s all it takes to have a “Talk2MorePeople” encounter. Conversations like this change lives for the better. Even though we need to physically distance at this time, it remains important and worthwhile to Talk2MorePeople.

What a lovely compliment to my hike.

 

Creating connections in Calgary, Canada, Tony Esteves is a play-based facilitator, keynote speaker and performer. He studied at the Second City Improv Training Centre, has a Bachelor’s degree in Communication Studies and has been performing with Le Cirque de la Nuit since 2014. He was a part of their 2016 TEDx performance, “The Creative Process.” In the circus, Tony dazzles, juggles and plays with audiences to create memorable experiences. 

He believes that people can move their lives and businesses forward by having more face-to-face conversations and therefore created the Talk2MorePeople Project. During this social experiment, Tony met at least one new stranger a day for an entire year, and through the people he met, transformed his life for the better. In total over 550 strangers came into his life that year. The Talk2MorePeople book teaches people how to make face-to-face connections and will be released in 2020.

Many of Tony’s connections came from the 40 countries that he has travelled to or worked in. In his free time, you can find Tony scrambling or snowboarding in the Canadian Rockies, studying a language or playing mini-Ping-Pong.

 

Do you take time to reflect on your accomplishments? It can be easy to overlook what you have achieved when life moves so quickly. But it’s a worthwhile exercise to do so. When you take time through any mindfulness practice to celebrate what you have accomplished, you give yourself a little gift. Doing so can boost self-esteem and help you become more aware of what you are capable of.

It is important with goal setting to reflect on where you are at the starting point so that you can measure your progress. This step often gets overlooked.

Today marks my seventh anniversary since I arrived in Alberta. It’s my “Alberta-versary” as my Twin sister, Andrea would say.

It is May 15, 2020, and in this blog post, I will celebrate four of my accomplishments as an invitation for you to reflect on your accomplishments as well.

I moved here because I needed to shake things up both in my personal and professional life. Here is a blog post about that day. I was not disappointed.

There have been many challenges, adventures and I have met many new people along this way. When I arrived in Calgary, the only person I knew here was my supportive twin sister, Andrea. Here are the celebratory accomplishments.

1. I completed The Talk2MorePeople Project – In April of 2016 I set out to meet a new person a day for a full year. My life transformed because of the new people who came into my life. I completed the project one year later and the journey of meeting people helped improve my mental health. In that year, I met over 550 strangers and some of those people are now the most important people in my life. This article based on research is a nice reminder that we should talk to strangers.

2. I joined Le Cirque de la Nuit because of a conversation with a stranger and have done more professional performing than ever before. This is a recent video that offers entertainment for people who remain isolated at home during the COVID-19 pandemic. The character is me being theatrical and juggling. Enjoy.

3. I published my first poem in a mirror suit. This video is a project that I was inspired to share during these times of rapid change. I perform in this costume regularly, and the metaphor of reflecting seemed like something fun to play with.

I wouldn’t dare recite a poem for an online audience as I am new to poetry. But to deliver it as a performance? As a performer at heart, I was excited to do it. Take a look at that short video below. Have you been reflecting during these unprecedented times?

4. And last, but certainly not least, on this May 15th, I completed the Talk2MorePeople book. On that day, I submitted the second draft to my editor for stylistic editing. There will still be a little back and forth and then I’ll need to work with another editor for the copy editing, but the book itself is pretty much done! This is an accomplishment that I am extremely proud of.

Sure there will now be an entirely new phase of work with promoting and selling the book, but I’ll step up to that challenge with the help of mentors and other authors who have walked this path ahead of me. Pre-sales will begin in the coming weeks. If you would like to follow my journey as an author and to know when the book becomes available, please join me HERE. That is my “Talk2MorePeople Tips” newsletter where I share tips on how to meet people and updates on the book.

 

I am extremely grateful for the time that I have had in Alberta. I’ve worked as a dining room server, a fruit slicer, a circus performer, and a play-based workshop facilitator a coach, a master of ceremonies and have learned from each of these experiences. I have met hundreds of wonderful people since arriving.

May the next seven years be as invigorating as these past seven years.

My wish is that you take time to reflect on your accomplishments over the past year or two. Are you where you would like to be? Or is there much work to do? No matter what the case, know that change is inevitable, and circumstances can always get better.

Happy reflecting.

 

Creating connections in Calgary, Canada, Tony Esteves is a play-based facilitator, keynote speaker and performer. He studied at the Second City Improv Training Centre, has a Bachelor’s degree in Communication Studies and has been performing with Le Cirque de la Nuit since 2014. He was a part of their 2016 TEDx performance, “The Creative Process.” In the circus, Tony dazzles, juggles and plays with audiences to create memorable experiences. 

He believes that people can move their lives and businesses forward by having more face-to-face conversations and therefore created the Talk2MorePeople Project. During this social experiment, Tony met at least one new stranger a day for an entire year, and through the people he met, transformed his life for the better. In total over 550 strangers came into his life that year. The Talk2MorePeople book teaches people how to make face-to-face connections and will be released in 2020.

Many of Tony’s connections came from the 40 countries that he has travelled to or worked in. In his free time, you can find Tony scrambling or snowboarding in the Canadian Rockies, studying a language or playing mini-Ping-Pong.

While out for a walk in the neighbourhood of Ramsey, Calgary a woman pulled up next to me and took out her phone to take a picture. It looked as if she was pointing it straight at me and I thought, “Oh. Am I in trouble for being out for going out for a walk during the pandemic?”

But in Calgary at this time, going out for a walk is totally fine as long as you practice physical distancing. She was pointing her phone/camera at me because, on the other side of me, about 1 metre away was a giant turkey that I had not yet seen! It was Turk, “The Ramsey Turkey.” The person in the car told me all about this local celebrity and we had a laugh together. He even has his own Facebook page called, “The Loyal Followers of the Ramsey Turkey.” This is a recent local news piece that was done on Turk. 

You can meet people while physical distancing. It’s just not as easy. Put some effort into saying hello to the person passing you at a distance on the sidewalk or across the street. You may be very pleasantly surprised to see how happy they are to hear from you. Stay safe, and at the same time, stay connected.

Tony Esteves has presented and performed for people on 5 continents. Based in Calgary, Alberta, Canada, he is a play-based workshop facilitator and performer. He facilitates communication and resiliency and improves team dynamics. He studied improv at the Second City Improv Training Centre, has a Bachelor of Communication Studies degree, and loves to bring people together. Tony has been performing with Le Cirque de la Nuit since 2014  and was a part of their 2016 TEDxYYC performance. He believes that people can best move their lives and careers forward by having more face-to-face conversations. (That is how he got into the circus). This is why he created the Talk2MorePeople Project.

During this social experiment, Tony meet at least one new stranger a day for an entire year and positively transformed his life. Now he teaches people how to do this through coaching, workshops and keynote presentations. The Talk2MorePeople book will be released in 2020. With a professional background in logistics and communication, Tony has presented at conferences in Canada, Italy, the USA and South Africa. Having lived and worked in 40 countries in a variety of unique jobs, including managing logistics for the US military in Uzbekistan, teaching in Japan and corporate sales in Ukraine, Audiences from Tony’s presentations leave entertained, educated, inspired and empowered.

Have you ever said, “I don’t have the time.”

This has been a challenge for many people. But as we are all currently in some form of isolation due to the pandemic, there no events to go to. I have a great deal more time to myself. In this time, I have been able to progress further on my greatest passion project – the Talk2MorePeople book. I am at the stage of re-organizing the full manuscript on the advice of my editor and I’m quite excited about the new format. It takes a lot of time to do this and I’m grateful that I have it now.

Other colleagues and artists are also working on creative projects at this time, and I’ve heard stories of parents playing with their children much more.

I anticipate with curiosity what new art will come from this unique pause in human history. What creative projects are you working on with this unexpected time?

Tony has been performing with Le Cirque de la Nuit since 2014  and was a part of their 2016 TEDxYYC performance. He believes that people can best move their lives and careers forward by having more face-to-face conversations. (That is how he got into the circus). This is why he created the Talk2MorePeople Project. During this social experiment, Tony meet at least one new stranger a day for an entire year and positively transformed his life. Now he teaches people how to do this through coaching, workshops and keynote presentations. The Talk2MorePeople book will be released in 2020.

With a professional background in logistics and communication, Tony has presented at conferences in Canada, Italy, the USA and South Africa. Having lived and worked in 40 countries in a variety of unique jobs, including managing logistics for the US military in Uzbekistan, teaching in Japan and corporate sales in Ukraine, Audiences from Tony’s presentations leave entertained, educated, inspired and empowered.

There is a great deal of never-been-heard before news available today as the world grapples with the COVID-19 pandemic. I noticed myself getting overwhelmed and anxious after being ultra-plugged into the news when things kicked off in North America around March 10th.

I want to offer that it is essential of course to remain informed as things are changing rapidly, but that we don’t need to stay glued to the news. It can be tempting to do so, but it may not be healthy. I recommend at this time a low media diet. Choose not to consume more than 30 minutes of news a day from reputable sources.

Doing so has helped me considerably as the case numbers continue to climb in Canada. I still know what is going on, yet I can focus on my work and other projects throughout the day.

Have a watch of the short VIDEO below. For positive news stories, visit https://www.optimistdaily.com

Do take excellent care of yourself and those around you at this time.


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Tony has been performing with Le Cirque de la Nuit since 2014  and was a part of their 2016 TEDxYYC performance. He believes that people can best move their lives and careers forward by having more face-to-face conversations. (That is how he got into the circus). This is why he created the Talk2MorePeople Project. During this social experiment, Tony meet at least one new stranger a day for an entire year and positively transformed his life. Now he teaches people how to do this through coaching, workshops and keynote presentations. The Talk2MorePeople book will be released in 2020.

With a professional background in logistics and communication, Tony has presented at conferences in Canada, Italy, the USA and South Africa. Having lived and worked in 40 countries in a variety of unique jobs, including managing logistics for the US military in Uzbekistan, teaching in Japan and corporate sales in Ukraine, Audiences from Tony’s presentations leave entertained, educated, inspired and empowered.

Do you know what opportunities you miss when you are too busy? According to this ARTICLE below are the costs of being so busy.

THE COST OF BEING SO BUSY

1. You’re less productive

2. You’re less creative and innovative

3. It has a negative effect on your mood

4. YOU MISS YOUR LIFE

5. You confuse being busy with being stressful

I get it. I’m a busy person too. But recently when I had a very busy day I had the opportunity to meet a friend of a friend. Even though I was busy, I chose to meet him. It was completely worth my time. This speaks to point #4 above. I don’t want to miss my life.

In the hour and a half that Kenton and I met, we enjoyed a vibrant conversation and learned about one another. He shared some information with me about the work he does teaching permaculture and about tiny homes. I shared about the work I do teaching communication skills and leading play-based workshops. We will be in contact again in the future. 

 

Sure, it was a busy day, AND it was improved by making this new connection. Take a moment to think about what you are missing out on because you are too busy. This short video is about having met Kenton. Check out his work at https://kentonzerbin.com.

Make time to allow new people into your life. It can transform you for the better.

Great things happen when you Talk2MorePeople. Free tips on how to meet people are available here: http://eepurl.com/gNB7ob.
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Tony Esteves has presented and performed for people on 5 continents. Based in Calgary, Alberta, Canada, he is a play-based workshop facilitator and performer. He facilitates communication and resiliency and improves team dynamics. He studied improv at the Second City Improv Training Centre, has a Bachelor of Communication Studies degree, and loves to bring people together.

Tony has been performing with Le Cirque de la Nuit since 2014  and was a part of their 2016 TEDxYYC performance. He believes that people can best move their lives and careers forward by having more face-to-face conversations. (That is how he got into the circus). This is why he created the Talk2MorePeople Project. During this social experiment, Tony meet at least one new stranger a day for an entire year and positively transformed his life. Now he teaches people how to do this through coaching, workshops and keynote presentations. The Talk2MorePeople book will be released in 2020.

With a professional background in logistics and communication, Tony has presented at conferences in Canada, Italy, the USA and South Africa. Having lived and worked in 40 countries in a variety of unique jobs, including managing logistics for the US military in Uzbekistan, teaching in Japan and corporate sales in Ukraine, Audiences from Tony’s presentations leave entertained, educated, inspired and empowered.

When you meet new people, you are given an opportunity to have an information exchange. That is one of the many gifts that are available to you if you reach out to talk to someone whom you’ve never met before. On this day, I met Em and he learned about networking workshops that I host. There is a free Play2MeetPeople networking event coming up this February 19th and he is welcome to attend if he likes. The four of us had an enjoyable conversation and we all learned new ideas.

Research by Social Psychologist Gillian Sandstrom shows,

“people systematically underestimated how much their conversation partners liked them and enjoyed their company, an illusion we call the liking gap.”

So there is good news. When you approach a stranger, they are more likely to think favourably of you than you are of yourself after the interaction. Keep that in mind when you have the opportunity to reach out to another person face-to-face.

When you talk to someone you don’t know, you can experience an information exchange and it’s worth the effort. Conversations change lives.

Great things happen when you Talk2MorePeople. Free tips on how to meet people are available here: http://eepurl.com/gNB7ob.
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Tony Esteves has presented and performed for people on 5 continents. Based in Calgary, Alberta, Canada, he is a play-based workshop facilitator and performer. He facilitates communication and resiliency and improves team dynamics. He studied improv at the Second City Improv Training Centre, has a Bachelor of Communication Studies degree, and loves to bring people together.

Tony has been performing with Le Cirque de la Nuit since 2014  and was a part of their 2016 TEDxYYC performance. He believes that people can best move their lives and careers forward by having more face-to-face conversations. (That is how he got into the circus). This is why he created the Talk2MorePeople Project. During this social experiment, Tony meet at least one new stranger a day for an entire year and positively transformed his life. Now he teaches people how to do this through coaching, workshops and keynote presentations. The Talk2MorePeople book will be released in 2020.

With a professional background in logistics and communication, Tony has presented at conferences in Canada, Italy, the USA and South Africa. Having lived and worked in 40 countries in a variety of unique jobs, including managing logistics for the US military in Uzbekistan, teaching in Japan and corporate sales in Ukraine, Audiences from Tony’s presentations leave entertained, educated, inspired and empowered.

Listen Up

I overheard John speaking to another writer at the Maclab cafe at the Banff Centre for Creativity. There is a writing retreat on now and they are both participants. I am on my own private writing retreat in Banff while cat-sitting and decided yesterday to do some writing at the Banff Centre. I approached John and said, “Excuse me. May I ask you a quick question?” He said, “Yes”. “Are you here on the writers retreat?” Again, he replied, “Yes.” This led us into a conversation where he told me about an authors’ event. It was open to the public and happening that night, so I attended. It was great.

A Sequence of Events

The event itself was great, but the insight that I had while there was fantastic. I met award-winning author Anakana Schofield and heard readings from other talented authors. What a privilege. The insight I came to was that I must include more of my circus story into my book. So I will, and I am excited. This is real-world evidence of how a conversation with a stranger can improve your work or your life. So get out there and meet someone!

Tony Esteves has presented and performed for people on 5 continents. Based in Calgary, Alberta, Canada, he is a play-based workshop facilitator and performer. He facilitates communication and resiliency and improves team dynamics. He studied improv at the Second City Improv Training Centre, has a Bachelor of Communication Studies degree, and loves to bring people together.

Tony has been performing with Le Cirque de la Nuit since 2014  and was a part of their 2016 TEDxYYC performance.  He believes that people can best move their lives and careers forward by having more face-to-face conversations. (That is how he got into the circus). This is why he created the Talk2MorePeople Project. During this social experiment, Tony meet at least one new stranger a day for an entire year and positively transformed his life. Now he teaches how to meet people through coaching, workshops and keynote presentations. The Talk2MorePeople book will be released in 2020.

With a professional background in logistics and communication, Tony has presented at conferences in Canada, Italy, the USA and South Africa. Having lived and worked in 40 countries, he has worked in a variety of unique jobs. These include managing logistics for the US military in Uzbekistan, teaching in Japan and corporate sales in Ukraine. Audiences from Tony’s presentations leave entertained, educated, inspired and empowered.

Did you know that learning can be fun?

The below video is from a recent event called, Play2MeetPeople Networking. This is a series of community events to bring adults together to play and then network. The next event will be on February 19th, 2020.

Play is not only an enjoyable way to learn, but also assists in making the learning more memorable. Participants remember more about the way you make them feel during a learning experience, than what you said.

So why not give your team a memorable learning experience? Go ahead, bring in the juggler.

 

Creating connections in Calgary, Canada, Tony Esteves is a play-based facilitator, keynote speaker and performer. He studied at the Second City Improv Training Centre, has a Bachelor’s degree in Communication Studies and has been performing with Le Cirque de la Nuit since 2014. He was a part of their 2016 TEDx performance, “The Creative Process.” In the circus, Tony dazzles, juggles and plays with audiences to create memorable experiences. 

He believes that people can move their lives and businesses forward by having more face-to-face conversations and therefore created the Talk2MorePeople Project. During this social experiment, Tony met at least one new stranger a day for an entire year, and through the people he met, transformed his life for the better. In total over 550 strangers came into his life that year. The Talk2MorePeople book teaches people how to make face-to-face connections and will be released in 2020. The online “How to Meet People Masterclass” is available now HERE.

Many of Tony’s connections came from the 40 countries that he has travelled to or worked in. In his free time, you can find Tony scrambling or snowboarding in the Canadian Rockies, studying a language or playing mini-Ping-Pong.