On this snowy February evening I spoke with 3 new people. One of them said hello to me with a compliment. I still maintain that this is one of the best and easiest ways to start a conversation with someone.
The other two gentlemen were security guards at the Scotia Centre here in Calgary. We spoke about how more people seek shelter inside when the weather is so cold and that it’s tough to kick them out.

I was pleased to learn that for the most part, the homeless people who these fellows deal with are very respectful and don’t cause problems.

 

It’s amazing what you can learn by talking to strangers. The insights and different perspectives from talking to people who you might otherwise never come into contact with will enrich your life. It just makes sense: broader ideas = broader perspective = a better world.

Take the 30 day challenge of meeting 1 new person a day for a month and see how your life improves.

Tony Esteves is an international speaker, MC, facilitator and performer who brings play back into the workplace. He is a published author, a 360 videographer and a performer with Le Cirque de la Nuit – a Calgary based circus. Tony is currently working on his 1 year social experiment called, Talk2MorePeople. This project aims to illustrate and prove the value of meeting new people. Here is what CBC Radio is saying

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The Talk2MorePeople Project continues. Here is a look at the encounters on Day 292 in Calgary, Canada.

T2MP Day 292 Part 1. “Don’t take any time for granted”. 

I wandered into the Hyatt hotel and in their hotel bar I approached the staff to ask them this question, “I was wondering if either of you could share any useful knowledge with me at all that has anything to do with life”. They kind of laughed as this is obviously a strange request and this is what Richelle had to say.

“Don’t take any time for granted. None at all. That’s my motto”.

Thank you for that message Richelle. 

 

T2MP Day 292 Part 2. 

Tonight at the Sunday Night Music Social I met Susan. This woman in her 50s is absolutely full of life. Just from the get go of our conversation she started speaking about how she feels so lucky to be alive and so thankful for so many things. She was bubbling with excitement. It was wonderful to see. 

She came with her niece Alecia to the event tonight. And was understandably very impressed with the musical talent that we enjoyed.

Susan has suffered some recent tragedies in her life yet she views them as gifts and I have never seen such optimism and joy in someone who has just gone through such great loss.

On a night when earlier I had been feeling pretty terrible, I am sure I was meant to hear these words from her. Our exchange lasted only a few moments but boy did they have an impact on me. She shifted me instantly out of my toxic mindset and into one of appreciation, openness and gratitude. This set me up perfectly to enjoy a beautiful evening of live music. (Check out the video with live music below). 

T2MP Part 3. 

On this evening I was taking the train home from the event. I was listening to some music and reflecting on the beautiful evening that it turned out to be. A homeless man who I am familiar with – because I see him often in my neighbourhood holding the gates at the train station and who I have conversed with multiple times – got on the train. He got on at City Hall station. I took my headphones out. Not because I planned on striking up a conversation but just to be more present.

At 1st St. SW Station, a fairly intoxicated young guy got on and started talking to me. He was very friendly and told me that he was on his way home from a staff party. His name was Dallas. He asked me what instrument I play and I told him that I play little guitar but I preferred to sing. He said, “I want to sing right now!”, so I said, “Start singing!” and he did. While this was happening, the homeless man hunched over started falling asleep in his seat.

As Dallas and I talked a little bit while he played some air guitar and did some singing, I felt compelled to take out some money for this homeless man. I thought about how many gifts I had received tonight from music, support and conversation from a number of people. I thought it only would be a correct exchange for me to offer something to this person in need.

I don’t have a lot of $20 bills to spare but that’s what I had in my wallet and so I gave it to him. As I was getting off the train I woke him up and said, “Hey excuse me, you dropped this”. He looked up and smiled and thanked me repeatedly. I said, “God bless. A number of people were very good to me tonight, so I just wanted to pass it on”.

We both got off the train at Sunnyside station and as he got off he said, “Thank you brother. I will pass it on too”. 

This felt, REALLY good. On a day when I actually felt like sh!t most of the day and worried that I would not be able to accomplish my encounter for this challenge the above things unfolded.

This is a beautiful and mysterious life we live. 

Throughout this day the people who I had the privilege of speaking with really helped me move to a much better place psychologically. I find that to be one of the greatest gifts so far along this journey. 

I find it truly remarkable the gifts that we can exchange so easily through conversation with people whether we’ve known them for years, for all our lives or just a few moments. I really believe that we are given messages by these people even if sometimes it’s not what we want to hear.

So Talk2MorePeople.

Tony Esteves is an international speaker, MC, facilitator and performer who brings play back into the workplace. He is a published author, a 360 videographer and a performer with Le Cirque de la Nuit – a Calgary based circus. Tony is currently working on his 1 year social experiment called, Talk2MorePeople. This project aims to illustrate and prove the value of meeting new people. Here is what CBC Radio is saying. 

 Connect with Tony for a meaningful face-to-face conversation.

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It’s been 200 days that I’ve been meeting new people and collecting conversations. Has it been challenging? Yes. Has it been surprising? Yes. Has it been much more work than expected? Yes. Has it been worth it? Absolutely?

This was Day 200 of my daily challenge of T2MP. On this day of the project I met several people at a gym, in the city, at the ThrillerYYC event and almost everywhere in between. www.cc4ms.ca

The conversation with Amanda Gallop in the video is about how we met over 3 years ago due to a random conversation. Not only has Amanda become a great friend and housemate, but she’s also introduced me to yoga and fitness which is literally extending my life! That’s a pretty great bonus.

Throughout this day I met several people and in the eventing I had the privilege of hosting the ThrillerYYC fundraiser as the MC. This event raised funds and awareness for cc4ms.com. This cause supports men who were childhood victims of sexual abuse. I ended up in this position because of a conversation that I had with Jeff Wilkie who I had met earlier during the Talk2MorePeople Project. It was an absolute pleasure to work with him and his team putting this event for over 500 people on.

While there I got speaking to Dee about how it’s amazing that in today’s day and age we need to teach these techniques to people around connecting. Because she feels that it’s just natural for us to want to be close to one another.

Thank you for following along. Be sure to “Like” the Talk2MorePeople Facebook Page for daily updates.


Tony Esteves is an international speaker, MC, facilitator and performer who brings play back into the workplace. He is a published author, a 360 videographer and a performer with Le Cirque de la Nuit – a Calgary based circus. Tony is currently working on his 1 year social experiment called, Talk2MorePeople. This project aims to illustrate and prove the value of meeting new people. Here is what CBC Radio is saying:

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/calgary/calgary-man-talk-2-more-people-1.3814461

Connect with Tony for a meaningful face-to-face conversation.

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The Light The Night Walk – Talk2MorePeople Day 186

Photo: Light The Night Calgary

Photo by Light The Night Calgary

On my way downtown to see a show, I came across hundreds of people walking with lanterns along the Bow River tonight in Calgary. It was beautiful.

I stopped and asked Lindsey what this was all about and she explained to me that this was The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society of Canada’s “Light The Night Walk” for Calgary. This walk happens in several cities on this day in Canada and on other dates around the world.

Light The NightThe purpose of it is to raise awareness and funding for all types of blood cancer for the more than 110,000 Canadians affected. Lindsey works for the LLSC here in Calgary and even though shutting down a tent when we met, she took the time time to explain a great deal about the event and the organization to me. This event helped raise hundreds of thousands of dollars.
If you saw one of these walks in Canada, the different colours had different meanings. Red were for supporters, white for patients and survivors were gold.

As I do a bunch of work with events both as a presenter / performer and on the logistics side, I might be able to support this organization sometime at a future event. We touched on this briefly when we met. Of course there is a chance that there may not be an opportunity to collaborate, and that’s completely fine as well. I love the fact that just a simple conversation can create that possibility. Not to mention that I got to learn about a wonderful event for a wonderful cause.

Light The Night CalgaryUnquestionably, it’s worthwhile to talk2morepeople. Thank you for your time this evening Lindsey. It was great to meet you.

Here is a piece from CTV news on the event.

And this is where you can learn more about LLSC

 

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Tony Esteves is an international speaker, facilitator and performer who brings play back into the workplace. He is a published author, a 360 videographer and a performer with Le Cirque de la Nuit – a Calgary based circus. Tony is currently working on his social experiment called, The Talk2MorePeople Project. This project aims to prove the endless value of meeting new people. In this project Tony is meeting at least one new person a day for a year to illustrate this. Connect with Tony for a meaningful face-to-face conversation.

How often do you meet someone new? 

I’ve been having some conversations with new people recently. Many conversations actually. And one of the greatest observations through this process is that there is so much potential in a face-to-face conversation whether you know the person or not. 

By taking some time to create and engage in a new conversation a day for a month (or in my case for a year) you create possibilities. You create opportunities to hear about and learn new ideas. You create opportunities to learn about new jobs, people, concepts, social engagements and so many other things. Furthermore, you get to share resources and ideas of your own that can have a big impact on the person who you are meeting. 

Creating these possibilities is much easier than most people think. All you really need to do, is get outside your comfort zone a little more often, and talk2morepeople. By meeting and engaging with more people, you have more chances to connect with new possibilities. It’s that simple. 

On a daily basis now, I am uplifted by this challenge of meeting a new person a day for a year. While it does take time and effort to do and to document this, it no longer feels like work. This is because I have met so many wonderful people and it’s helped make me a better facilitator and person in the process. I’ve learned that for the most part people are actually quite open to having a conversation with a stranger if you approach the situation properly. 

I believe that we far too often overlook the abundant potential that surrounds us on a daily basis by not connecting with the people who are close by. It takes surprisingly little effort to break the ice with a stranger and to uncover this potential. You can start with a genuine compliment, share some good news, or ask a question for example. 

In this video we hit the half way mark of the Talk2MorePeople Project. It was Day 183 of T2MP and it took place in Trinity Bellwoods Park, Toronto.

 

I encourage you to build your personal and professional network by giving yourself a break from all of this technology and taking the Talk2MorePeople 30 Day Challenge. If you actually meet a new person a day for a month, I can guarantee you that new positive experiences, opportunities and people will come into your life. 

Now that sounds like a pretty manageable and worthwhile thing to do doesn’t it?

talk2morepeople-30-day-challenge-card

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Tony Esteves is an international speaker, facilitator and performer who brings play back into the workplace. He is a published author, a 360 videographer and a performer with Le Cirque de la Nuit – a Calgary based circus. Tony is currently working on his social experiment called, The Talk2MorePeople Project. This project aims to prove the endless value of meeting new people. In this project Tony is meeting at least one new person a day for a year to illustrate this. Connect with Tony for a meaningful face-to-face conversation.

 

 

It’s nice to find out just how high you can climb, isn’t it?

This was a big hike. I’d wanted to do it for more than a year. And then I did it with the help of a good friend who is also fanatical about mountains.

This was a spectacular day. I’d been meaning to hike Mt. Lougheed ever since hitting the summit of Wind Tower in 2015. Chris and I got to the top but it was a lot of work. The 1400 m elevation gain took us 7 hours to reach the summit at 3107m. This had us above 10,000 feet. I’ve only been this high a couple of times in my life while not in flight. 

It was truly a spectacular and challenging day of this life.

Getting through this hike and was a reminder to me that,

“what you put your mind to, you really can accomplish”.

Take some moments to see the stunning scenes in this video. It was shot using just an iPhone SE. 

Tony Esteves

iOnTheBall.ca  Creativity Inspiring Connections

Tony Esteves is an international speaker, facilitator and performer who brings play back into the workplace. He is a published author, a videographer and a performer with Le Cirque de la Nuit – a Calgary based circus. Tony is currently working on his 1 year social experiment called, Talk2MorePeople. This project aims to illustrate and prove the endless value of meeting new people. Connect with Tony for a meaningful face-to-face conversation.

 

These past few days have been somewhat challenging for me with the Talk2morepeople project. Of course there’s no shortage of people to meet, but somehow I seemed to have lost some enthusiasm for it. Last evening I cycled around for about an hour before I could have a conversation with people other than Pokemon Go players. That’s not to knock the millions of people who are suitably obsessed with this new augmented reality game, it’s just that when I meet players we almost always speak about the game.

Here is a video with my thoughts from yesterday, Day 113.

Today was much better as someone approached me. I was surprised that someone stopped me to talk rather than the other way around. I’m very often the person starting conversations but because of my TEDxYYC T-shirt, Cassidy mentioned, “Hey, I like your shirt”. This led us into a conversation about TED talks and a proper conversation.

I appreciated meeting her because it was a good talk and also because it gave me an insight as to what it’s like to be approached by a stranger. I can understand how the natural instinct is to be closed and I think that has to do with the level of surprise in the interaction.

This 360 video sums up my experience from today. Very nice to have met you Cassidy. Keep on talking to more people.

Tony Esteves

iOnTheBall.ca  Creativity Inspiring Connections

Tony Esteves is an international speaker, facilitator and performer who brings play back into the workplace. He is a published author, a 360 VR videographer and a member of Le Cirque de la Nuit – a Calgary based circus. Tony is currently working on his 1 year social experiment called, Talk2MorePeople. Connect with Tony for a meaningful face-to-face conversation.

Here are my thoughts from Alforno Cafe in Calgary. Thanks to the suggestion a few days ago from Michael@talk2morepeople Day 100 Tony Esteves – a fellow video editor and new friend who appeared in my life just over a week ago – we produced this little 360 video.

360 video has become a part of my work and I host my content on a Facebook Page called, 360 Video Action and on my YouTube Channel. Once Micheal saw some of what 360 video can do, he suggested we have 3 versions of Tony in the same video to celebrate Day 100.

So that’s what we did. He very generously stitched these three videos into one so that we could create this fun, unique piece.

Take a look here to hear my thoughts, my thoughts and my thoughts on what this journey of meeting a new person every day has been like for the past 100 days and enjoy the 360 degree experience.

If you are enjoying what I’m creating, please follow along either here on my website by signing up for updates or on the @Talk2MorePeople Facebook page.

Keep on connecting.

Tony Esteves

iOnTheBall.ca  Creativity Inspiring Connections

Tony Esteves is an international speaker, facilitator and performer who brings play back into the workplace. He is a published author, a 360 VR videographer and a member of Le Cirque de la Nuit – a Calgary based circus. Tony is currently working on his 1 year social experiment called, Talk2MorePeople. Connect with Tony for a meaningful face-to-face conversation.

Today, July 15th, 2016 is the 2 year anniversary of the passing of my father. In today’s Talk2MorePeopleScreen Shot 2016-07-18 at 12.23.38 AM video I explain how I celebrate this with gratitude as I was fortunate to have had a great relationship with my father. He taught me my values, we worked together and we even took a trip to Brazil together once.

Thanks for the inspiration behind Talk2MorePeople Dad. I’ll keep meeting people, just the way you always did.

So that was Day 94!

Tony Esteves

iOnTheBall.ca  Creativity Inspiring Connections

Tony Esteves is an international speaker, facilitator and performer who brings play back into the workplace. He is a published author, a 360 VR videographer and a member of Le Cirque de la Nuit – a Calgary based circus. Tony is currently working on his 1 year social experiment called, Talk2MorePeople. Connect with Tony for a meaningful face-to-face conversation.

Do you find that many of the people who connect with you online are often wasting your precious time? Do you build mental clutter by avoiding and skipping over emails from people who you really don’t want to meet with or talk to?

Wouldn’t it be great if there was a way to FLIP things so that more and more enjoyable, useful and interesting contacts came into your world?

There is.

          It’s simple.

                 And it’s fun.

Talk to more people.

                 And do it face to face.

Yes there’s advanced search options online within LinkedIn, yes we can reach thousands of people now with Google Adwords or Facebook advertising, but are those techniques really working for all of us?

No.

Have you ever invested in any of these very targeted forms of advertising, noticed your views go way up, only to have your click-throughs to your website or product page stay almost exactly the same? It happens, often.

The old-fashioned concept of talking to more people face to face is timeless and gaining in it’s importance as our society becomes so digitally connected. Jump on board before you get left behind.

Here’s the thing. We have so many digital ways to ‘connect’ with people these days that it’s become overwhelming, counter productive and sometimes even dangerous. This Guardian article addresses how another US State is attempting to legislate against “distracted walking”.

While these tools can be handy and effective, with option overload it’s very difficult for the business owner to know exactly what digital marketing tools to use when and how. I’ve heard many conflicting expert opinions.

I find that nowadays it’s easier to create a useful real-world connection with someone just by actually speaking to them in person. Yes, this takes some courage, but isn’t life supposed to be a bit scary?

Of course if you go out and just meet random people, they likely won’t be your target audience or client right off the bat, but if you can make this part of your regular routine – and you can – you will be pleasantly surprised at the opportunities that you uncover.

From time to time you will meet someone who is very much just the person who you were supposed to meet and connect with. You will hear yourself say things like, “Oh what a coincidence that we met”, or “I’m so pleased that I met you”, or as a recent new contact of mine stated, “I’ve never had a conversation like this before”.

It doesn’t matter that by meeting new people every day that many of them will not be ideal clients. This is because by doing this, you are flexing a very important and nowadays under-utilized social muscle of

connecting with new people.

You will benefit from this by being able to effortlessly strike up conversations with potential clients and customers in other settings down the road, not to mention the other social benefits that will come from being a better connector and listener. AND occasionally you will indeed meet exactly the right person at exactly the right time. So I say let’s put a spotlight on non-targeted marketing to see what we can create.

This is not discount the incredible value of the digital world of communication. I use it almost every day. I publish videos, tweet, like and share content all the time. I do get business from people who see what I’m up to online, but it’s not the predominant way that I promote myself. I do appreciate it when someone comments on something that I’ve published and I will be sharing this article digitally.

But the bottom line is that people need spend less time working the digital tools and invest more time and energy into our soft skills once again.

I am speaking from experience.

I’m currently experimenting with exactly this concept by intentionally meeting at least one new person every day for a full year through something I call the “Talk2MorePeople Project”. I am doing this to encourage other people to put down their devices at least once in a while and to approach and meet more people face to face to uncover possibilities.

What started as a 30 day challenge has evolved into a 365 day challenge and has been very worthwhile for me to date. I recently took this concept on tour with me to 4 countries in Europe. While there I:

  • met new, amazing people daily
  • had a surprise trip to France
  • booked new clients in Canada
  • had a lot of fun
  • got introduced to many new ideas
  • felt completely alive

It seems that the more I do this, the more amazing the scale of the opportunities that are coming up. Just yesterday I met a fellow on a train who may actually bring me to do some facilitation work in Bangladesh. Even if no actual work comes from the interaction, the new ideas about what I can offer internationally are of value to me. And just co-creating an offline conversation has value in itself.

There are many ways to get over the fear of approaching strangers and volumes have been written on the subject. From my life experience as well as the encounters through this project at this time I would like to offer this one practical tip.

To break the ice to meet a new person out there in public, just offer a genuine compliment.

This simple task will almost always open the door to small talk that can lead to bigger talk, that can lead to real talk. Try it. You won’t be disappointed. If it feels awkward or strange, congratulations, you are getting out of your comfort zone which means you are growing. You’ve got the courage to actually try this and you will succeed, if you keep at it.

How do you think you might you benefit from meeting and brining more people into your life on a regular basis?

Interested to experience more? Check out www.Facebook.com/talk2morepeople to learn about the T2MP 30 Day Challenge. Take it to change your life.

In Calgary this week? Join us at GetConnectedYYC with hosts Lynnell Ible and Tony Esteves to get connected in person with others who appreciate a good face-to-face conversation.

Now get out there and make some unexpected connections.